I have some lines in my head from my GCSE-era English lit class (circa early/mid nineties). I'm convinced they're from poems and I was nearly certain that they were from an anthology called 'Six Women Poets'. Well, I recently bought a copy of the book in the hope of finding the words contained in its pages but no joy 
Knowing how learned and literate yer average mumsnetter is I thought this would be the perfect place to try to find out where the lines come from.
In one, there's reference to some things in Chinese culture and all I can remember is 'she extolled the virtues of (something) but deplored the (something, perhaps practice of) footbinding'. That's it!
In the other, from vague memory, it's about a woman who's husband is in prison. He drunkenly killed another man. He used to be in the army. There's a medal, or a photo of him wearing the medal, perhaps sitting on the woman's mantlepiece. Someone asks her about the medal and she says 'they gave him that the other time he killed a man.'
I've Googled these lines & got nowhere. Can anyone help?