To think this is not fair?

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My DSis got married last Christmas. Both she and her DH have been married before and he had been living in a rented house since his divorce. DSis owns her own house, having paid off the mortgage a couple of years ago. After they married her DH moved in with her into the house she owns. The house is in her name only and her will is in his favour. I'm not sure if he has a will. I asked her whether she was going to put his name on the deeds and would he then pay up 50% of the value of the house so that they are equal owners. She says no.

I'm struggling to get my head round the fairness of this. My DSis has worked hard to pay off her mortgage and owns her house outright whereas her DH doesn't own any property at all. I believe he has got a few quid in the bank, not millions but a fair few grand. So he is going to be living in her house, paying his part of the bills I believe but nothing else. I'm not even sure if he intends to pay for any repairs etc. If they ever split up he will end up with half of her assets, i.e. the house. Or if something happened to her and she dies before him he gets to inherit the property without actually contributing to it.

I worry that she's putting more into this relationship than he is, financially speaking. She doesn't seem at all bothered about it but I don't want her to get taken advantage of. I'm not a big fan of his so this may be clouding my judgement. He's okay but I think she could do better. AIBU to think she's getting a rum deal here?

This is the situation for thousands of women. You're only complaining because it's a man, and probably because you want the inheritance if something happens to your sister.

This is how a marriage should be. They are a partnership. If they have kids then even more so. It's their home. It has nothing to do with you.

if she wants to be a mug let her - it's her loss.

@22:15monkeymonkey2010

Would you call all the millions of breadwinner men mugs as well then? If they're the ones paying for the property for their wives/possibly kids? Or is it ok when its women who are being leeches?

OP,

If your sister is what one would consider vulnerable & perfectly capable of making her own decisions, then this is what she has chosen to do. I sm not sure who it is unfair to in that circumstance... unless she has children & they may potentially lose out if her DH becomes joint owner, she dies, and then he owns it outright. But I assume not as you haven't mentioned any kids.

I am surprised you asked her...I wouldn't consider it my business unless she brought something about property ownership up with you. You don't like him... but not a good enough reason on it's own to interfere ..

• would NOT consider vulnerable...(sorry!)

Are you upset because you assumed you would inherit her house upon her death?

I can’t see any other reason why this would bother you.

As other posters have said: none of your business.

Not your business.

What's not fair about it? Presumably hes her husband and they love each other? Or do you believe he is abusive or manipulative? If he treats her well I see no problem. You should try being in my position where one of your sibling manipulates your mother on her deathbed and coerced her into leaving the house just to them when it should rightfully be split between three children. Now thsts what I call not fair! Although you said this is both their second marriage, do they have children from previous marriages? If so i would tell her to be very careful or her children could end up in the same position I am in of she does first then he could inherit then leave to his children from a previous marriage