Supermarket checkout situation - I’m so angry!!

[Sjan82]

I was at ALDI this morning. There was an announcement that checkout 7 was opening. I was on the other side of the store, made my way to checkout 7 (took about 30-40 seconds). There was a guy loading his stuff for billing - that’s all, no queue. I stood there (say queue position 1). When this guy went to pay the bill, I moved ahead and started loading my stuff. Now, a woman from the next checkout (8) queue started telling me she was in the queue longer and so I need to join the queue at the back (of checkout 8). I stupidly apologised and went back to CHECKOUT 8 QUEUE !! So she was in CHECKOUT 8 queue, holding her place there. When checkout 7 opened, she didn’t move to queue 7. Still l, when 7 moved faster, she jumped in, sent me to the back of HER queue!!!! I was on the phone so didn’t pay attention. But I’m so angry now! The bitch just paid and left! I’m so angry for not asking her to fuck off!
This happened in the morning! I’m still fuming! How do you let this go and forget it?

Perhaps by getting your head out of your phone and paying attention to what s going on around you rather than moaning on MN hours later.

Seriously, you are angry at yourself more than you are angry at her.

Other people can move past this quickly because they have had different life experiences to you.

I would hazard a guess that you feel this aggression and feeling of being taken advantage of because this has happened before when you felt you could not stand up for yourself and no-one else put you first either. So there is probably some kind of history there when you felt vulnerable and not supported/valued?

What happened is not personal, this woman does not know you, you both felt you were first in the queue. I would suggest learning to be confident and assertive (not angry or aggressive, that's different) so you feel you can be acknowledged and that others will listen to your point of view.

shawshankredemption - its a kind message that you offer, but brov, this girl was not on the ball and casually shopping and talking on her phone in a place where most people want to get in and out as quickly and painlessly as possible, and she screwed it up for herself... i dig the physcological insight and there is probably some truth in it, but its a case of you snooze you loose. this lady is fuming but she should be fuming with herself for being a puppet and doing what a complete stranger told her to do!! the other woman won fair and square!! she also called this other woman a 'bitch' which is very aggressive and totally out of context considering all she was doing was trying to shop - so why does that make her a bitch? this lady did not have a gun to her head... its her own fault for being so absent minded and casual in an important place where people are trying to concentrate and get what they can afford for the week.

You're really angry at yourself because you know that you just did what someone else told you to. It hurts. You must become stronger and think WHY do I jump to people’s demands.

Hindsight is 20/20.

Maybe an assertiveness course might help you stand up for YOU.