Not sure I want to go back to my job.

[whatisforteamum]

I am in my mid 50,s and have always worked hard.Starting at 17.Often called a.workaholic.I was considering leaving my job before the lockdown.A combination of no work balance up at.7 home 10 ,1030.and opposite days off to dh so I could only see him if I booked holiday.
Also the team I joined gradually left so I now work with all young men.I try hard but don't have much in common with them
.My boss isn't so supportive and has hinted some of us may go less hours when we return.I feel like he would be glad if I left.
.I almost can't drag myself in and I am dreading it.Not like me at all.!
Being off would normally be my idea of hell.I have loved eating proper food self care and seeing the people I live with.
I do have savings which would see me through but would I be mad to consider a.New job in the present climate.

Or does.everyone returning to work feel like this?

Why are you working such long hours? Could you get a happy medium and cut your hours?

I am in hospitality the hours.are notoriously long.I didn't mind the last few years and I knew I was.exhausted.Perhaps less days now with the c ovid situation.

If your boss is hinting that some staff may need to reduce their hours and you’d like to spend more time seeing your family and being at home, isn’t this the ideal opportunity to volunteer for that?

If you intend to look for a new job in the same industry then now probably isn’t the best time as you’ll be competing with a lot of people who have lost hospitality and events jobs already. If your savings could tide you through a couple of years tough it might be a good career break where you could reassess what you want to do.

Yes true thank you.I guess I am over thinking the idea of a.50 plus hour week when I'n reality no one.Will be getting that.

Think carefully, lots of people being made redundant at the moment.

Do it

Not many jobs out there at the moment so unless you can manage without an income for a considerable length of time I wouldn't pack in your current job. Perhaps they will let you reduce your hours instead and then you can get home/work life balance back.

That is the kick up the bum I need.I do have.savings and the mortgage is paid however in the winter I would regret having nothing to do.
All the uncertainty is messing with my head.!😲

I'm on furlough and was dreading going back to mine, so I've handed my notice in and start a different job in a month. I got lucky I guess.
Maybe the reduced hours is a blessing in disguise.. or maybe you should start hunting around. No harm in looking!

If you are worried about needing something to 'do' in winter there are loads of charities who always want help with organising Christmas gift donations/wrapping/distributing for people in need.
I am sure you can find something to do !

Are you at risk of redundancy? Seems likely given you work in hospitality. wouldn’t signal you want fewer hours, as this may put you at a disadvantage.

Nothing wrong with job-seeking, but would try to keep your old job in the meantime.

I do think it’s natural not to want to return to work after a long period off. I was off long term sick last year and I didn’t want to go back to my job. The daily grind, organising my food, my uniform etc. Really difficult to get back into it. I was okay within a month or so though,

It sounds like you were so busy working you never stopped to think about life. Now suddenly you’ve had time to think and actually what you were doing wasn’t good for you? I would go back if I were you (unemployment will be high!) but look at less hours maybe? Or search for something less intense. If it’s hospitality surely it’ll be slow to pick up again anyway? I wouldn’t rush to leave a job at the moment but use this experience to see if there’s alternatives or less hours to find a better life/work balance.

I haven't signalled I could do less.I did say I need.35 lu s hours to pay my bills.
I suffer.with anxiety so working lots.has helped with that.
Everyone knows I am a worker I think NoOnElse is right.Given.time I will fall back into it.Also I always look around for new jobs and sometimes get headhunted.g
Given that.my.work is to the exclusion of.everything.else reduced.hours maybe the way.to go.

The job market is going to be tougher as this goes on...

I'm debating handing in my notice this afternoon, going back to work is making me feel sick, I want to work I do not want to go back to the job I have. I've been applying for new jobs and have had a couple of interviews (zoom). I have savings I could use if things dont get moving.

Good luck HelloDoris.I too.have enough money to keep afloat a few years.I just never wanted to risk getting off the treadmill.TBH getting in late with 1 1\2 for bath yoghurt and quick check of emails then bed seems relentless but I did it before and like others have said jobs wi!I be in short supply.

I get this feeling - I'm mid 50s as well so wonder if it is an age thing. We have almost been given a taste of retirement (not that work has slowed but a more leisurely pace to life) and I have enjoyed it. It's not that long ago we would have been pension age at 60 so wouldn't have had many more years anyway.
I do also wonder though if it will all be fine when we get back to the routine.

Yes googlepoodle I agree.I wonder how it some of the road with dh have been because of my job.Also he had a heart attack and both my parents battled cancer twice df lost his fight.All these things make us realize u only have one life.
I do wonder if I am a little old for my line of work when my colleagues are 18 and 20s.I am wholly reliable though.

You sound burnt out, also doing what you do does not sound sustainable in the long run.
I am close to 60 yeas old myself and started a new job just over 12 months ago. I cannot tell you how many jobs I applied for and how long it took...for that reason I would look to reduce your hours rather than completely give up.

Yes I probably am crimsonlake.Wise.words from.everyone thank you.☺

I've reduced my hours and a colleague did at the same time, two years ago. Best thing I ever did and I can be of more help to my 80 something mum.

That is.the thing I struggle to help my dm who is widowed now

Reducing your hours would suit you and it would suit your boss by the sound of it.

Reduce your hours, it sounds a real strain