Was this a pity invite?

[Somethingkindaoooo]

I caught up with a friend today ( I'm the one that got in touch to see if she wanted to get together). When we were saying goodbye, she said I was welcome to come around to hers on Saturday. I've completely lost track of days. She said she was having a get together for her birthday, and then listed all the friends who may pop round.
Normally she sends a big group message out.
This was the first I had heard of it.
That was a pity invite, wasn't it?

Yabu: nope not a pity invite
Yanbu: yes, totally a pity invite.

Nope, Euclid's right. "Invite" is a verb.

@Euclid

The word is invitation, not invite. Invite is a verb, eg shall I invite x to my party.

Twat

Usually I would say yes, but it’s an unusual situation. She may have wanted to see you in person to gauge your reaction. Some people are so judgemental about get togethers as as things stand.

Somethingkindaoooo

Euclid
^The word is invitation, not invite. Invite is a verb, eg shall I invite x to my party.
Er, yes. I WAS using it as a verb.
As in, referring to the ACT of her INVITING me.^

Touché 😁

You're putting a very negative spin on it. She may have forgotten you out of scattiness. She may have been waiting to hear on numbers.

Very few people have a "set" list of good friends. It's always a negotiation and people occur to you after the event who could be slotted in.

See it as an opportunity to meet new people, rather than a pity invite, and you might enjoy it.