To think tht at the VERY least dh should call me seeing as he knows I"m ill

[Pennies]

two hours ago I left a message on his voicemail at work to say I've just come down with d&v. An hour later I rang but it was engaged so I sent an email with the same info. 30 mins after that he sent one back saying that he might try and cancel his night out tonight. no fcuking sympthy, no offers of help, nothing. so here I am feeling like shit with two toddlers to look after solo.

IF his night out isn't a vital client entertainment thing I'd phone and tell him that he will be home. End of.

it's a non essential work night out with someone who's come over from USA (and his wife).

I sympathise. Have got the same myself. No sympathy from dh but then again, he got none from me at weekend when he had it.

Why? Because when dd was awake ALL thursday evening/friday morning until 6 am with it, retching every 5 minutes where was dh? Up in the spare room.. completetly ignoring the fact that his wife hadnt slept all night and that his daughter was in distress.

Why? Because 'he goes to work all day so needs sleep'.

So looking after a sick child the next day isnt work?

GGGGGGGRRRRRR!!!!

???night out id be out for blood{unless the night out was somehow going to save the human race or something of that importance}

i swear i'm banking this one and next time he's ill I'm just going to leave the house and leave him with the kids.

poor you, i do sympathise. I almost daren't say this but i guess as these people are over from the states it may be difficult to get out of, it might not be as non essential as it appears. Saying that, his first priority is with his family and his guests should understand that and be flexible.

I would email him back, or ring him and say you really are not feeling well and would appreciate him coming home. Its no point waiting around for guys to get the message and do the right thing, you tend to have a long wait, its not their fault bless them, they just don't have consideration programmed into their genome.

If its any consolation, these tummy bugs spread like wildfire, it will be his turn soon, when no doubt he will be telling you he has the plague or ebola!

apart from him cancelling tonight, what help is a call that says "oh dear darling.... that sucks" - doesn't help the childcare or feeling crappy does it? (or am i missing something from the OP)

I dunno, maybe it does

I do understand though - looking after kids when you are ill is a nightmare