Dated a guy for 3 months before lockdown and it was great. He was very romantic and keen. During lockdown we stayed in touch but it became very platonic. Early in lockdown on he actually (inexplicably) ended the relationship entirely, although changed his mind on that. Although we talked daily through lockdown, there was no romance involved.
Since lockdown has been lifted (not in the UK), we've seen each other a couple of times but he's seemed unenthusiastic. We've actually had a great time but he seems like he could take it or leave it. I've spoken to him about it and he insists there's no issue and that he considers us to be dating.
Meanwhile I've been asked out by someone else and would like to go. I have dated this guy before and we get on fantastically and have always stayed in touch.
I have a friend who is absolutely horrified and insists I'm 'cheating' if I go and it's completely immoral unless I stop dating the other guy first. It's making me feel like a terrible person.
Most friends, however, have told me not to be ridiculous and to go and meet him and enjoy it.
I am not ready to cut all ties with the first guy yet. I do like him and I would like to see if things change as we spend more time together. I definitely care about him a lot, partly as a result of the bond we built through our platonic but long chats during lockdown.
That said, I also don't want to put all my eggs in one basket with a man who sometimes seems completely apathetic about seeing me.
I'm reasonably new to dating so this is playing on my conscience.
(I've posted about this before so apologies if this is a TAT - not sure what the protocol is here!)