To think I wasn't that imports to him

[Yellowpepper2010]

Was with ex for almost 10 years, one of the reasons we split was because he wouldn't let me have another baby, I wanted my dd to have at least one sibling.
We've had a discussion via text ( we still live together at the moment but that's another thread ) he is saying he wants to be together and wants another baby but when it came to sex he'd get the condom !! Anyway today in the text I explained how much having another baby is important to me and i asked him if i stopped him playing and watching football like he is with me having a baby would he still want to be with me? to which he replied " probably not no" aibu to think that i couldnt have meant that much to him?
fwiw i wouldnt have stopped him doing his football i was just saying to him that he is stopping me !!

The title should have said important not imports !!! Bloody phone !!

What? You're comparing stopping him watching football with forcing him to have a child he doesn't want? Move on, grow up.

I found your post a bit confusing, and I’m sorry your relationship didn’t work out but you should definitely not have another child with this man and should move on.

Thank you for your reply! I am grown up ! Yes I did compare it because it seems that's all he lives for sometimes!! Doesn't matter that he's spent the last 10 years promising me kids and marriage and my time to have kids is running out!!

If he doesn't want another child you can't force him, how would you feel if it was the other way around? If he's an ex why are you planning another child with him? Do you actually want another child with him or just another child and he's there? This isn't a good environment to bring another baby into

Dollydally thank you for your reply!
It's so frustrating because he tells me he wants more kids etc but then it seems he doesn't xx

That's fair enough and I'm not forcing him but don't see why I should stay if I want more children and he doesn't, he's the one saying what can we do to stay together etc

He's been leading you on for 10 years with false promises, surely enough is enough and you should stop letting this man mess with your head.

That's how I'm feeling ! I'm worried if I allow him to keep promising another baby soon it'll be too late! Xx

Him wanting or not wanting another kid can be separate issue to how much you mean to him. I don't think you should necessarily conflate the two things. If he doesn't want another kid it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love you enough, it could just mean he doesn't want another kid, which is totally fair enough.

If it's been 10 years and he's still staying no or being vague and you really feel you must have another child, then obviously you need to seriously think about whether you want to start afresh with someone new ,or settle with what you've got with him.

I’m going to post this again. Let’s say you leave him and try with someone else and then it just doesn’t happen for you And you can’t have a baby , would it have been worth leaving him? That’s the question to ask yourself.

On the flip side, is having another baby more important than your relationship with him?
The point is do you just want another baby regardless of who with, or is this man who you want to spend your life with? You post is a bit confusing.