DH are in different places at the moment due to work so we call each other every day to catch up. DH saw my BF yesterday and in our conversation today DH asked me if I talk to my BF about my DPs. I do, background is below. I text BF on most days generally, when I've had a particularly bad day with DM I'm in tears when I get time alone with DS during his bath (I can't cry otherwise its like the Spanish inquisition). BF supports me and whilst I accept there's nothing they can do it helps to talk about it and helps me not to dwell on it. DH said he wouldn't ever talk negatively about family to friends, family is family and they should be respected. DH said about BF telling other people about my family, DH doesn't want DS to hear other people talking badly about DPs. Said to him that he'd made me feel bad and that I now felt like I shouldn't talk to my BF when I need support with DPs. Granted he didn't explicitly say that but that, for me, was inferred. AIBU to speak to my BF about my family?
For background, DPs are currently staying with me whilst they move in to their new place, with Covid that means its now been almost a year. My DM is particularly hard to live with at times, always negative, she's racist/homophobic and has a tendency to vitriol toward me in particular with 'you're fucking disgusting' (child's toys in front room), 'you're despicable' (me trying to clarify if she actually wanted soup after she decides to make a sandwich for herself), gives DS coke knowing I wouldn't want her to, he's one. She has a long term illness which is managed.