To not want SIL to take DD on a night away

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My SIL proposed taking my 7 year old DD on a night away in her campervan as her birthday present. DD very keen, I’m ok with the idea in theory. Except she wants to do this on July 11, basically as soon as lock down is eased. SIL lives 3 hours away, we’ve not seen her since January. I’m not keen on 7 yr old DD sharing the confined space of a campervan when the guidelines say that 2 household can meet inside and stay over but should maintain 1 meter distancing and not hug

Whatever you're comfortable with. Just tell her you would rather she waited a while to see how things go with the virus

To add, hubby thinks I am absolutely unreasonable.

Your DD so your call entirely. But they are relaxing the rules because the risk is low. If your DD and the rest of your household are not in an at risk category, then I’d let her go.

How is your daughter being away from you,? Can see this going badly if she gets homesick and shes 3 hours away.

Lovely idea, but why not just suggest that she does it in August instead, I'm sure they'll have as much of a good time then

Daughter has only stayed away from us twice, always with her big sister there too. I work in a hospital, do I’ve seen the last few months at the absolute worst & know things are much better now. Hubby has thrown this in my face as well suggesting I’m far more likely to be the route of any of us catching it. (😡shower still work before coming home when I’ve been working with + patients)

I've just seen where you work, in that case yabu you're more risk than your SIL.

I’d be ok with this personally. I was going to say it depends on what your SIL has been doing during lockdown, and whether or not she has been socially distancing from others. But seeing as you work in a hospital it seems unlikely that SIL would be increasing the household risk and the chances of your daughter getting cv.

Ummmm I were full protective gear (think all the scariest photos of health care staff you’ve seen) with all patients. I work ultra front line so we have to be soooo crazy careful, so I don’t actually think I’m more of a risk.

My concern is that a campervan (& it’s a small 1/2 person campervan) is a really enclosed space. I spent months learning the dynamics of the spread of this virus and it’s that which makes me feel uncomfortable.

If she wants to go, I’d let her.

No, you’re not comfortable with it and would not be able to take time off to take care of her if she caught Coronavirus. Your work is quite literally of national importance. Who told your daughter about this before it was discussed and you decided whether it was okay? Whoever that was is out of order. Oh, and your husband needs to shut up and consider that you’re probably worried enough about that as it is. He’d get some short, sharp words from me

I know I’m in the minority but I just don’t get the urgency. Why not wait a month to see what the situation is? They are obviously going to struggle to keep 1m away from each other in a camper van.