To ask for a new £10 as replacement

[Polkadotpjs]

I sold a friend an item I'd advertised on a local selling group. She gave my husband the cash but we just found out a week later she gave one old £10 note in the money. How do I ask for a new one back? I'm so confrontation averse. Give me a line I can send her?!

Can't you just take it to a bank or post office and ask them to change it?

www.simplybusiness.co.uk/knowledge/articles/2019/07/what-you-should-do-with-old-notes-and-coins/

I would just pop to the post office and change it.

The bank will swap it for you. The branches seem to be open now, with social distancing in place.

I'm on that side too but husband is annoyed and wants me to ask her directly. I may just do the post office thing and not tell him.

Yeh I'd probably just swap it at the bank, that's cheeky of her though if she did it on purpose.

@Polkadotpjs

I sold a friend an item I'd advertised on a local selling group. She gave my husband the cash but we just found out a week later she gave one old £10 note in the money. How do I ask for a new one back? I'm so confrontation averse. Give me a line I can send her?!

You found out a week later?

That can't be right, as soon as you see the notes you know one is an old one. Did you not count the money when she gave it to you?

While she might be a little bit of a CF you have to take responsibility for not seeing it the moment she gave you the money.

If you have to hide using the post office from him, you have much bigger problems than a friend giving you an old note.

If your husband is annoyed then he can ask her!

It’s a bit of a weird thing to do as it’s created a job for you to do now taking it to the bank but I couldn’t be bothered to fall out with her over it!

You could always keep it for a time when you need to give her a tenner for something and give it back to her!😂

Or, if she’s gullible say ‘you’ll never guess what Melanie. When I took that old tenner you paid me to the bank to be changed they said they were so rare now as they’ve been out of circulation for so long that they gave me £20 for it instead so I gave the profits to the blind hedgehog society in your name’

If it,s a wk latter then I think that's too longtry swapping at the bank first.

It would’ve been fine to ask if you’d noticed straight away but you can’t go back and ask a week later! It’s as much DH’s fault for not noticing.

Just pay it in to the bank and forget about it

I'm really not afraid of my husband. Just cannot be arsed with a debate - he's not keen on her. Money was in an envelope and not opened until later- no big mystery there as to why we didn't notice. No reason to check with her being a good friend. I'll just take it to PO. I'm not seeing it as a huge deal - didn't know I could switch at bank or PO

Some of the new notes are very similar to old Bank of England ones.
No end date yet on paying these into your bank account. I had to accept and pay in £2000 worth of old paper £10s at the bank few weeks back as a customer had no other way to pay and I wanted paid then not when they might eventually got a chance to get around to changing them. Bank accepted them and went straight into my bank account.

Your husband sounds very unpleasant.

My DH can be as annoying as the next person but in this scenario is mildly annoying so I'm fine honestly. He is very much "let's just sort it out now!" with everything that needs doing ever whereas it's no big deal to me. I'm just happy to sell her something she needed

If you have to hide using the post office from him, you have much bigger problems than a friend giving you an old note.

Why do people have to read so much into things like this? I don't tell my husband stuff sometimes - because I know it will save a fall out/argument/prevent a disagreement.....doesn't mean we have 'problems' or a bad marriage!
In this situation, I would be annoyed and if it was my husband's friend I would tell him to ask his friend to swap it for a new note. But I know he wouldn't and would probably just swap it himself at the bank and not tell me!

I'm so confrontation averse

No confrontation needed! You're not about to grab her in a headlock and shake her until she gives you a new note, are you?

As it wasn't noticed at the time, (though why he didn't count it there and then to check it was the right amount is odd, even good friends can miscount under or over) take it to the Post Office to change it over.

Could you not ask your husband why he accepted an old note, and then ask him to change it?

I'd have just told her I want a new £10 as I dont want to do an unnecessary journey to the post office. She can go to the post office and swap her old one for a new one when she drops off your new £10.

If you don't notice it at the time then you can't reasonably come back a week later about it! The seller has no way of knowing you're being truthful after all.

It's like when you go to a shop, and there's a sign saying that mistakes with change can't be fixed after you've left.

PS: Did you husband even COUNT the money when he took an envelope containing it?

Frankly I think your 'D'H doesn't want to admit that he's been stupid, so he's trying to push the consequence of his mistake on you.

I went to the post office and they paid it into my bank account and I told him he was an arse for making a fuss. He just said "sorry thought it would be too late ". I know it wasn't a confrontation situation but I'm so excruciatingly shy with stuff like that it's weird. Never complain in restaurants/ shops either. I need to get confidence from somewhere. Weirdly I present a lot at work and am fine but when people are involved I don't like to make a fuss...