Says Im a bad mum

[Mum2Girls19]

So in a bit of a situation and just want some advice as to whether what to do...
Ex partner is a key worker so hasnt seen his kids since February.
Hes constantly playing games with maintenance and contact anyway before lockdown started not to mention the abuse I get off his girlfriend.

Now hes asking to see them, he asked last weekend but i was ill suspected covid so we were self isolating, I tested negative but still feel bad, explained to him that no lockdown is still happening and i dont want to put the girls under any stress after keeping them safe for weeks and we end up sick
He says that im being ridiculous and lockdown is pretty much over when everything opens on 4th July and I cannot stop him seeing his kids.
I told him he can come and practice social distancing whilst seeing them in our garden given the weather is going to be nice, he says that hes going to take me back to court and he will get 50/50 custody and his gf will be a better mum than I am..
I'm so upset, I dont think he knows how hard lock down is, with the kids being at home and me and hubby trying to work too plus Im still not feeling well.

Should I just give in and let him have them?

Told him that he is not taking our daughter to a indoor party with loads of other people...what are people thinking btw? I dont know...
His reponse was she can bring her inhaler..

Told him if he wants to see them maybe he could of tried a bit harder all the way through just because hes a key worker, he has abused that title and used it as a way not to see them when in fact he could of all the way through.
Told him he has made me effort at all the maintain contact and all my texts are me seeking contact with him and I arent doing it any more.
He is more than welcome to take me to court, i've done the best for my kids all the way through this minus his support.

He sounds like he’s been a total dick which I don’t condone but he should see his kids regardless of lockdown or him being a key worker.

Money and nasty words aside your children need to maintain a relationship with their father and he’s legally allowed to see them without social distancing in place.

Unless someone is classed as vulnerable and needs protecting you’re being unreasonable to prevent him seeing the kids.

My DP is a key worker and we have DS - 6 months - it has been a worry at times but none of us are high risk so why should he / DS miss out on his Daddy during lockdown. It shouldn’t be different because you’ve separated.

OP YABU. He is their father. He can see his own kids.

ToBBQorNotToBBQ

Tell him come and see them then, he could come and see them anytime I havent stopped him

so one child is shielding due to asthma and he wants to take them to a party?
hell no.

I think as others have said though, you need to sort out proper arrangements for visits. The situation is unfair, but regardless, you have to be sure you do everything correctly to facilitate his relationship with his children. Then, if it doesn't work out, that's on him.

Keep a record of everything. Don't speak to him, just email.
Stop speaking to him, and his gf has no say in anything, just block her.
maybe block the both of them and give him the email only.
If you have made it difficult for him, likelihood is he'll be getting 50% residency. He's their dad.