what time does your 15yr old go to bed?

[1805]

just that really. ( only just 15yr old if that makes a difference.)

Between 8.15 and never later than 9 school nights. No devices upstairs. He's 14.5
When he trains 3 school mornings 5.30am it's 8oclock but with Covid it's been a little later.

About 10.30/11. Is generally in her room from about 8, no phone/iPad from 9.30, and reading for 30 minutes before lights out.

16 year old in lockdown has been going about 2am!!
Can't exactly force them to bed at that age.
13 year old in lockdown is at 10pm, can watch telly for half an hour in bed then lights off.
When it's school though more like 9.30pm

@contrmary omg you must be joking! Well at least I hope you are
Ds 1 is 16 in bed by 10 on school nights
Ds2 2 is 14 goes to bed around 9:30-10.
Ds1 is a night owl and will go to bed later at the weekend but he will have a big lie in!!! Ds2 will always go to bed at the same time but at weekends will be up around 8 ( this is a lie in)

This always shocks me on MN that people make their 14/15 year olds go to bed so early. I would fully expect teens of that age to be responsible enough to figure out how much sleep they need by then. And certainly by 16.

At 15 I was working some shifts at 6am and also some shifts that finished at 1030pm at the earliest. Not sure how I would have managed latest with an 830 bed time!

Teens are so babied these days, although I am all for independence but my 15 yo old would not be out drinking till 3am. I am guessing that's a joke though!!

By 10 school days. Whenever they liked weekends.

My 15yo cousin is staying up until 3am watching Netflix in her room.

gonnahurt I don't know any 15/16 year old who is currently in bed much before 1-2am! If I sent my teen to bed so early she'd just spend 6 hours lying awake staring at the ceiling 😅

I would fully expect teens of that age to be responsible enough to figure out how much sleep they need by then. And certainly by 16.

Yeah they would know how much sleep they need but I'm not having mine stay up till 4am playing video games and then rolling out of bed at 1pm which is what would happen. Once in a while is fine but not everyday of the summer

Mine are 17 and 14. I tell them to go to bed if they're still up after midnight. We are in a small house. If ones up we are all up really and it's not on. Luckily they get this and understand that you have to be considerate when living with others.

@YgritteSnow Exactly, also I don't want them lazing about the house all day because they've been up all night, they need to help around the house, my husband and I work FT. It wouldn't be fair for us to have to come home and then start doing all the housework too when there are other people in the house perfectly capable of pulling their weight and are not working.

@AryaStarkWolf the thing is, if they have the freedom to do that most kids wouldn't do that every day. My 14 yo plays various sports and has music comitments so on the days he needs to get up early he'll go to bed earlier, same on a school night. On the days he doesn't need to get up he manages his time as he pleases.

We have never had one incident with him abusing it (I am a night owl so know if he is still awake).

Obviously if required I may shout a quick reminder of what the time is. If my DS couldn't be trusted then I would step in more of course but he deserves the chance to be trusted IMO.

I agree, if there's stuff to do then they should be up helping if you'r out at work. I would expect my DS to do this also but if I told him he needed to get up to help out whilst I was at work then he would.

Mine go upstairs when I do, so 10.30 on school nights with phones left downstairs. Weekend about an hour later.

At the moment though, I’m not working, they aren’t going to school so We’re practically nocturnal.

DS goes to bed around 9-9.30 weeknights. Between around 10.30 and 12.30 at weekends depending how he feels.

@ThisIsGonnaHurt you haven't met my son He gets engrossed in those video games. My daughter would have been more sensible than that though. I don't think it's a one size fits all type thing with kids anyway

Around 10 on school nights, but since lockdown, it's been all over the place! I frequently hear her bumping around when I'm in bed so I suspect she's sometimes up until the early hours.

Speaking to other parents, we're all having this issue atm and will have to try and get them back into a better routine at some point.

@AryaStarkWolf that is very true and totally agree one size doesn't fit all but quite often on these threads they go down the route of 'if they live under my roof they do as I say' with no opportunity for the teen to see what works best for them, when I actually believe self regulation is a really important skill to learn.

My 12 yo is good at going to bed himself, he has autism and ADHD and hits a wall and just knows he has to go to bed (usually about the time he cant sit still and starts rolling round the floor), I do wonder what he'll be like as a teen though with his issues.

@1805 I have more issue getting 15 year old out of their room, normally bed would be 10.30 in school night by 12midnight at weekend but atm we have all gone a bit feral and its whenever they want

Mine are years 11 & 10. I'm in bed way before them and some nights they're still awake at 3am. I really have no issue with it, dd has no GCSEs and Ds sets his alarm for school (when he actually has lessons, like 3 times per week ).

10pm in term time and whenever they want in the holidays.

@contrmary

It depends what time they get home really and what state they're in, if they've been out drinking they might not get back until gone 2am so should probably go to bed immediately. If it's just been an evening of aimlessly wandering the estate they might be home by 11, in which case midnight sounds reasonable.

At 15?!

About 11 - in bed about 9.

Weekends whenever as long as I can't hear

Screens off at 9:30 on school nights then DC can read as long as they like. No limits at weekends or in lockdown.

9:30 / 9:45 week nights. Weekends I sort of leave them too it. No all nighters without prior arrangements through.