To think she's "crazy"?

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I'm gonna not put many details here just incase she is on here.
I was friends with a woman for years,she always had it in for me (trying to make me look stupid,talking down to me,tried it on with my ex etc"
Anyway 7 months ago after I started dating her guy friend she fell out with me then started telling him I was crazy and to dump me.
She said I went to her house and threatened her (I never ) told him I owed her £300 (I never )
Then in March ..a social worker knocked at my door.
Someone had phoned crime stoppers and said I was abusing my mother (obviously not true )
I know it was her,I can't prove it.
I'm trying to show this guy what she's like.
He can't see it.
She's playing the victim.
She's great at it.
What can I do?
How can I win with crazy behaviour?

It’s a waste of energy thinking about her.
Think more about why you want to get back with someone who:

• didn’t believe you
• has poor judgement
• is friends with someone bringing trouble to your door

Sounds like you want to “win” him over her, forgetting along the way that he’s actually no prize at all. Forget them both, and for goodness sake stop being linked to them on social media!

Urgh

@Ellisandra I think that's what it is.
I want to get one over on her after the lengths she's gone too.
It's pointless isn't it,I think the best thing Is to move on and leave the idiots behind.
Thankyou for your words of wisdom
Sometimes you just need a bit of outside common sense .

You really do have to remember that he isn’t a prize worth winning!

The very first time she called you crazy to him, and told him to dump you, he made a choice to listen to that and not shut her up.

Remember that when you think you have feelings for him.

You don’t - it’s just wounded pride!

I'll bet he is loving this. Two women fighting over him. What an ego boost.

If he wanted to be with you he would, and he would have your back. Instead you appear desperate. I've been there and know how hard this is for you. But I promise you that he is not worth it if he is behaving like this. And she will never admit the truth.

Walk away from them both. You deserve so much more than this.

@LagunaBubbles

Why are you still squeaking daily? I don't even do that with my best friend.

I agree with SmallSteps

Why the fuck would you involve yourself with all this? He didn’t believe you, but chose to believe her. He’s not worth another minute of your time.

Also - why were your friends fir ages with an obviously unpleasant person who doesn’t like you? You must be some kind of masochist.

OP, do you think you might need to work on your self-esteem?

Why are you chasing some idiot guy who doesn't trust you, doesn't prioritise you and doesn't want to be with you?

Even if you did get back together with him; it sounds like this woman would always be in your life. Do you actually want that? If so, I'd take a long hard look at why, because that would make you as unhinged as she is.

Dump both. You deserve better. You can’t win with this one I’m afraid. You can’t beat that psycho.

The only way to win is to walk and don’t look back.

My self esteem has always been shot.
I have no idea why I was friends with her for so long.
Tbh when it was just me and her she was ok...it was only when other people were with us when she would start her nasty tricks.

No I deffo don't want her anywhere near me in any capacity.
Your all right,nothing good can come from keeping in contact with him.
He's shown where his loyalty is,and it's not me.

Cut them both off.. these are not nice people.. nothing screams louder than silence .. BLOCK

Get rid of your bf/ friend and dont go back to him. Just ignore them both as they are wasting time when you could be happy.

Well, you don't sound very nice either, calling her 'crazy'.

If you genuinely think she has a mental health problem, then you need to stop fuelling it by getting so involved.

If you don't think she has a mental health problem, you need to stop using the word 'crazy'.

It is not healthy for you to keep so involved with an ex-partner who has obviously chosen not to be with you. Fixating on his friend is only going to keep you in that same loop.

OP have you posted about this a couple of times before?

It seems very familiar.

This is written about a man but applies to her. He is in her harem and will always choose her over any other woman.

esteemology.com/the-narcissist-and-his-harem-why-you-should-decline-membership/

Get rid of them both.

Let them go, OP. Neither of them is worth your time. Look for better friends. You deserve better, and I hope you soon have better people in your life.

My advice is sit back ignore, the more you try to prove it you'll upset you and she'll thrive on it. You've nothing to prove you're not lying. He had a choice I'm sorry he took her side but it is done, let them have each-other you'd never have a peaceful relationship with the drama.
She'll definitely show her true colours if not getting the attention she craves.

Karma is a wonderful thing I believe.

Take a step back from him, don't answer his messages and if you do, then don't answer straight away. Slowly he'll start to wonder what's going on. Tell him you can't cope with the drama from her and that you can't be with someone who counts her in his friendship circle and you'll be the grown up and step back as you don't want to come between their friendship and make him choose.

If he truly is keen on you then he'll understand why.

Hell maybe mention to her and she'll confess (psycho bitches like this will spill at some point to brag) or if she doesn't then the same will likely happen to his next future partner and he'll see the pattern.

Either way you will have a better life without either of them in it.

Drama free is the way forward

He has to find it out for himself, personally I would back of completely.

Leave the pair of them behind; he's chosen her for now. Maybe one day he'll see what she is and contact you; maybe they always play these games together and they always will.

Perhaps he'll come back begging, but it'll be a few years and you don't want to waste your time waiting, do you? Have a good life, leave him behind and concentrate on things which make you happy.

Okay, it's lockdown so opportunities to expand your social circle are pretty limited right now.

But nevertheless. You are not that desperate for human companionship. If all else comes to it, you can come on MN and have a bunfight about absolutely nothing instead of obsessing over these people daily.

Books. Netflix. DVDs. Duolingo. Perfecting your karaoke skills. All better for you than having these people in your thoughts.

Here's an idea : block them both and move on with your life