To think hes changing his mind

[Greyandpink]

Ive been with my bf for a year and a bit, were in our 30's and have a child each. Talks of buying a house together, we get on good with each others friends and fam. He lives an hour from me so we see each other maybe once or twice a week.

Lately i just feel like hes not that into us. Also, so when i met him i was roughly the size i am maybe few pounds lighter but not loads. Im mid size so not skinny but not the other end either. But i do wonder if thats contributing.

Hes not very affectionate, also its always me initiating seeing each other.

I dont know.

Should i...

A) Tell him how i feel n see

Sorry pressed post too soon

A) tell him how i feel n see what he says

Or B) Take a bit of a back seat n see if he initiates etc.

I feel like hes showing alot of interest in other girls too, on the street via instagram etc.

Maybe im being sensitive.

Any thoughts? Xx

Is there a 'B)'?

You need to know where you stand. No point investing in a relationship that’s going nowhere.

Ah sorry op! Just saw your next post!

Yes I would ask him flat out.

You need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel and go from there

A. Tell him and see how he responds.

Tell him you need some reassurance that it's all going in the right direction. It doesn't need to be an ultimatum. Just that you're feeling a little bit unsure of his feelings. If he isn't responsive to that then at least you know where you stand.

OP, in the nicest possible way, there’s a total disconnect between the part of your post that says you’re considering moving in together and the bit that describes an unaffectionate, unenthusiastic man you see once or twice a week, and only then if you initiate it. You’re flogging a dead horse here. You deserve someone who genuinely wants to be in your life.

C) end it yourself isn't an option? Its the early days, there's supposed to be a spark between you, he's supposed to show a bit of enthusiasm. Instead he never contacts you first, and when he's there he isnt, he's looking at other women.

Must, he rings me more n mostly initiates the msgs. But in terms of seeing each other i feel its more me, but he does also come over randomly to surprise me.

I think youre right ppl choosing A i need to lay it all out.

Yep, A

If a guy is into you, there is absolutely no doubt. They will find a way to see you, they will find a way to talk to you.

If you feel like he’s not that into you... he’s not. Plenty more guys out there that will be.

Def A. Also, him showing interest in other women when you can see/notice is very disrespectful, and I personally would end it.