Filmed in my own home

[Teacupover5]

So ..Saturday night is party night here .
We have a couple of drinks and play music from our youth while texting friends about tunes .
DP was looking back through texts from last week to get a song for BF to guess ,I noticed a photo of me from last week of me asleep on the sofa and DP commenting to friend that I was passed out 😡
I feel so violated that he has photographed me relaxing at home and shared it 😢
Opinions please .

It would depend, if it’s fairly good natured, aw look at teacup snoozing, or if it has nasty undertones to it ?
wouldn’t be happy if I was mouth wide open and dribbling, but would be making it clear under no circumstances to do it again.
Wouldn’t end a relationship for that incident alone.

It took OP 20 minutes to decide to leave her DP ... I've spent longer deciding which packet of crisps to buy.

@Sharpandshineyteeth

I always fall asleep on car journeys. Usually with my head back and mouth open. My friends have taken loads of photos of me and taken the piss. Sometimes it’s tedious but then I can see the funny side because I look like a right twat.

I wouldn’t break an otherwise good relationship over this. Just let him know you didn’t like it.

Your friends are the ones who are twats.

gfs?

I don't think it's a terrible thing to do, it depends on context, relationships with friends etc. If you are happy with him otherwise I'd just tell him that you weren't comfortable with it and that he's not to do it again, then move on

@Colom Goady Fuckers who seem to think that MN is a real life soap opera purely for their entertainment.

One of my favourite pics of me is me asleep cuddling my dog like a teddy (he's also asleep).

Sending a pic to people implying I was passed out drunk however would have gotten the picture taker a right bollocking.

I need a hobby

I think your over reacting tbh

I need a hobby

😂 me too!

Goady Fuckers - also includes trolls trying to generate sensationalist content to support their agenda that MN is full of women who over-react/aren't cool girls, etc.

It depends on the context, I might snap a quick pic of DH crashed out and share it on a friends or family group chat we are both in with the intention of ribbing him a bit.

I'd not do it behind his back, or with the intention of completely humiliating him or slagging him off. Two minutes is a long time to film too.

Follow your instincts with whether to walk or not. If it's the latest in a pattern of shitty behaviour then yeh, if it was a thoughtless moment then sleep on it.

There is a time and place for this sort of thing and like another poster said, it depends on who it was shared with/to and your relationship with them.

I have taken the odd photo of Hubby and sent it to our daughter over messenger, but never anyone else and I think that is ok.

On the other hand, one of her former year students and our neighbour had taken a video of her drunk mother and posted it to her snapchat page. That was overstepping the mark in my book.

I have just sent a pic of my DH asleep on the sofa to our close friends group chat. I think our marriage of 14 years will survive it and we all do shit like that all the time. For the record I don’t feel vulnerable asleep in my own home, so yours obviously isn’t a safe place. I’d feel vulnerable if I feel asleep on a beach or in a club and DH took a photo without helping me, but in our own home I feel perfectly safe.

@Musicforsmorks @Colom
me three!

Another saying it depends on context. I've both taken and been the subject of sleeping photos. I can't remember what was shared and with who, but neither was an issue because I was okay with the photos and who it was shared with, as was the subject when I did it. Knowing your subject and knowing that your friends aren't going to think the less of you/them for it, is key.

I can't imagine a context where I'd leave someone for doing it though, assuming I was fully dressed etc.

You’re completely over-reacting and so are loads of the posters on this thread although some of them are probably just trying to goad you into leaving him for a bit of fun. Please don’t listen to them. It’s ridiculous to end a relationship over something so trivial. DH and I have some friends we have a few drinks with and one or other of us often falls asleep and gets photographed. We just have a laugh about it. Calm down!

I am so sorry he did that.
My aunt often fell asleep at gatherings and no matter how many times she asked them not to her husband or sons would take pictures of her asleep. Humiliating her was a never ending joke to her husband and boys.
That was just one of the ways they enjoyed humiliating people.

It's not really that much of a big deal - unless there are other issues too.

Ask him not to do it again and if he does, then you would be justified in thinking of leaving him.

You sound like hard work tbh, he probably thought it was funny and mistakenly thought you'd think it was funny too, just ask him not to do it again and move on

Fuck!! It's almost tradition in my family to take a pic of grandad/dad/husband/brother asleep on the sofa at Christmas, usually bolt upright with a paper hat om, Isn't this just the same thing?

If it was taken to ridicule or shame you then that's worse than if his friend asked how his evening was going or something so he sent a vid of you sleeping.
Don't think it's worth arguing over. Just tell him you don't want him to send pics of you to his friends.

@greensnail

My friends send me photos of their husbands fallen asleep on the sofa all the time. I wouldn't have a problem with my husband sharing a photo of me with friends or family, would probably find it funny as well. However, if I was upset by it I would expect him to apologise and not do it again. And I wouldn't be happy with him sharing it with people I didn't get on well with myself.

Exactly this.