To think if children do not go back (to school) until. September, thats a lot of very vulnerable children who have been completely off the radar for 6 months??

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Its one of my main concerns really. By this i dont mean that are vulnerable because they are poor with disabled, unable to work, or hardworking parents. I mean at risk of domestic abuse, other forms of abuse or maybe poverty, job losses, stress as a result of that,But too proud to access help. aibu in wondering what might come out after this is over, 4 children in this country have died already in DV murders 😔, i get very worried,.

Goosefoot absolutely, i was as a child ;. a) young carer to a disabled sibling b) a parent who had paranoid schizophrenia (sort of functional) and another who worked like a donkey and was essentially both parents really. . experiencing lockdown would have been horrific, my parents had a very tense marriage some dv,
i spent a lot of time in the safety of my room. they were both MC professionals i never landed on the radar. Also, question??? what does Chaotic home life. actually mean? its a term i hear used often.

Yanbu

Chaotic means lacks stability. So a parent might be a drug addict, move new partners in and out, have the police round regularly, have dodgy people like drug dealers round...

yeah i thought it would include all that, would people who move around a lot fall into the category aswell?

It took weeks for my loving father to turn from having a few beers to an alcoholic. Just from the loss of employment. My mother could not cope and went straight to medication. People can think they know how they would react when the shit hits the fan but my experience was quite common at the time due to mass unemployment where we were. Families are still scarred today and some of the children then are probably the adult chaotic families mentioned, that can be the longer lasting damage.

I'm amazed at the schools calling the parents weekly this is amazing! We had our first call since lockdown this week, they rang and asked to speak to DD2 which is lovely except DD2 was actually in school as she's in reception! I said "well I think we may have a problem as she should be in school with you" cue embarrassed teacher who then spoke to DD1 who had absolutely no idea who it was and why on Earth we were they phoning after she hasn't heard from her actual teachers at all.

Anyway I digress... I came on to say I totally agree and there is a horrendous story tonight in Solihull where a vulnerable child has been murdered by his father and partner. Just awful. It is unbelievable how we are treating children through this.

www.birminghammail.co.uk/news/midlands-news/boy-six-dies-following-head-18449498

there are no words that poor boy RIP 💐💐xx

I guess most schools have to prioritise who they call so will ring the higher risk families more.

What classes as vulnerable?

I think it’s very hot and miss. My middle child’s primary school have been fairly good, couple of calls from teacher and weekly visits from Elsa who bring activity packs, chat on doorstep etc which is nice

My secondary school child has had 2 calls from his teacher during the whole time. My nursery aged child has had no contact from anyone at all since March, she’s due to start school in sept and has missed a huge chunk of preschool (only started sept due to 3 funding) and will be one of the youngest in her year. I imagine there will be thousands of transisitioning preschoolers who are not on anyone’s radar...

Next doors kids go to school and nursery in our town-mine go in next town, but hers seem to have no one actively visiting them, despite them being in care recently and only returning home at the beg of the year, I obviously don’t sit glued to the windows but I’ve not seen anyone official looking visit, no social workers it seems and no school presence either. The mothers bf is high volatile and constantly shouting at her and the kids in his booming aggressive Italian accent, it makes me feel nauseous when he starts shouting and I’ve not had any experience of DV so I dread to think how it makes the kids feel.