My brother wants to come visit from abroad

[Hejsa2020]

My brother lives in Denmark and wants to come visit next month, just texted me 2 hours ago. He always comes to mine every year, last time I saw him was at Christmas, he stayed for nearly 2 weeks. Sometimes he comes twice a year, I told him we’re still in lockdown even though it has been eased a bit, there’s not much to do here. But he still insist on coming. I love my brother, and he works hard but sometimes I feel like this is just a little cheap holiday for him to just get away from it all a bit. He doesn’t have to pay for hotel, just the flight. And he never really gives me any time to be prepared, it’s always short notice. Within weeks of asking if he can come he’s in the UK. I don’t want to sound like I don’t want him to come, but at the same time I’m just not in the mood for guests!! I told him to come in the autumn or Christmas if things go well, but he wants to come now! Next month! I just CBA.

Well, he can't right now because we're still in lockdown and non-essential travel isn't allowed.

Well he can’t stay at yours can he as he’ll need to self isolate for 14 days before he can see anyone?

Say it’s not possible until at least when you have the ok - it’ll probably be 4th July ish, not before

Whilst I think the visit really really isn't the best idea ATM I think strictly speaking the rules would allow OPs brother to enter the UK and he could nominate the OP's home as his place of self isolation..from the HMG website:

"You should self-isolate in one place for the full 14 days, where you can have food and other necessities delivered, and stay away from others. You must self-isolate at the address you provided on the public health passenger locator form.

This can include: your own home, staying with friends or family
a hotel or other temporary accommodation
You should not have visitors, including friends and family, unless they are providing essential care. The only friends and family who you can have contact with are those who travelled with you or people who you are staying with."

www.gov.uk/government/publications/coronavirus-covid-19-how-to-self-isolate-when-you-travel-to-the-uk/coronavirus-covid-19-how-to-self-isolate-when-you-travel-to-the-uk

He’d have to self isolate for 14 days...just get him to wait a few weeks

"Sorry, it's not a good time for me." Problem solved. You do realise that saying no is not rude or unreasonable? If he's disappointed he'll get over it.

I would tell him that, if he comes, he will have to stay in a hotel. If. hotels will be open for non essential travellers. Don't let him dictate to you.

So if he came over and stayed with OP does that mean she has to isolate with him for 14 days? Because if she can leave the house that makes a bit of a mockery of the whole thing.

@Aquamarine1029 I know I can say no, but don't want to come across as not wanting him here, I'm bit of a wimp when it comes to
stuff like that

Has he checked the price of flights? I haven't checked Denmark but ones from Norway to the UK are really high. He will also have to self-isolate for 14 days. Does he really want to do that? I am in Norway and we are similar to Denmark in the current situation and I notice it is easy to forget that other countries aren't back to normal as we are. I think he needs a sharp reminder of this. Or just say no. You can say just say no to him without having to get into complicated discussions.

Yeah, just say no. My dm text dh yesterday saying she could now come visit(in scotland), she must have forgot she lived with my dad and they live 2 hour drive away. I was quick on the phone to put her straight. Not seen them since january, a few more weeks won't kill (I hope)

Well, surely if you're a wimp, covid and lockdown is the perfect excuse!

He can't come unless he doesn't want to leave your house for 14 days.