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To ask whether or not you have missed your friends during lockdown?

43 replies

HotSince82 · 19/06/2020 20:47

I must say I haven't. Lockdown has made me realise just how little I rely on them/how antisocial I am. Granted, as a keyworker I am getting to go to work and I suppose socialise with colleagues to some extent. I do work in healthcare though so work hasn't been exactly fun or as jovial/relaxed as previously.
To be perfectly honest I am content to just be at home with DH and the DC. I am pining for my mum, we are extremely close and she is still currently shielding so no bubble as yet for us.
My SM feeds are full of friends stating how much they miss each other. I truly can't even be arsed to call my friends for a chat, nevermind look forward to meeting up with them.
So come on, am I just a miserable old trout or are some of you, like me enjoying the forced isolation a bit too much?

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FudgeBrownie2019 · 19/06/2020 20:49

I miss my close friends. I have lots of different groups of friends and some I've not missed at all, but a couple of close ones I've missed hugely. I'm quite a sociable person and am struggling with being so cut off from people I love.

Hellokitty82 · 19/06/2020 20:53

@HotSince82
I agree
I'm a keyworker too in a hospital
In fact some of the ridiculous comments, whining, moaning and carrying on about lack of loo rolls/ pasta and places being shut and them being bored has made me evaluate some of these people.

I've had a social media clear-out 😂 and deleted anyone who quite frankly needs to get a grip when keyworkers across various sectors are working so hard.

I'm the same I love being at home with partner and kids

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HotSince82 · 19/06/2020 20:56

@FudgeBrownie2019 I'm sorry you're struggling, hopefully with the lowering of the threat level, is that the right terminology? You will be able to see your friends again very soon.
I had always considered myself as very sociable but I'm having to reflect and realise that perhaps that is not the case at all. I like not being beholden to anybody outside of my household, I have so much more time for solitary pursuits now, like reading and arsing about on the internet.

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HotSince82 · 19/06/2020 20:59

@Hellokitty82 yes I think I too am due a cull, if the level of eyerolling my scrolling through SM is causing me to do.

I hope you and your colleagues are staying safe and well.

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gobbynorthernbird · 19/06/2020 21:03

I think if you're going out to work (and your family live with you) it's probably very different. I miss my family, my friends, and my colleagues, very much. But I live alone and WFH.

gobbynorthernbird · 19/06/2020 21:04

Probably posted a bit too soon. Under normal circumstances I very often feel peopled out and love some alone time.

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/06/2020 21:04

Some of them I’m missing quite a lot. We’ve had loads of birthdays in lockdown and it’s been crap not being able to get together.

But we’re all making more effort to keep in touch than normal, by WhatsApp in groups and by proper phone call. I hope that continues.

majesticallyawkward · 19/06/2020 21:05

I've missed a few of my small number of friends, it's made me realise just how few people I enjoy being around. I am a little sad that a new friendship has stalled... I don't form friendships easily but had met someone I genuinely got on with at a baby group (and a bonus our babies are the same age) but it's hard to carry on such a new thing via text.

My dd has missed her friends terribly though, she's only 5 and I really see how important these relationships are to kids now. She's spent more time calling people than I have.

letmethinkaboutitfornow · 19/06/2020 21:07

I missed my friends a lot!
Some of them were shielding and just getting out so we can meet in their gardens! 💐
I thought I was antisocial but realised I have a lot of friends! ☺️

Oblomov20 · 19/06/2020 21:07

Yes. Majorly. But I've seen them all now, many times, since we've been allowed.

majesticallyawkward · 19/06/2020 21:08

the level of eyerolling my scrolling through SM is causing me to do.

Also yes! 😂 I dont know when my SM got so full of eyeroll inducing cringe!

BarbedBloom · 19/06/2020 21:08

No, I am an introvert and pretty antisocial. I haven't seen anyone but DH since March and am perfectly happy.

Oblomov20 · 19/06/2020 21:09

Plus we have messenger so we message every day normally, so not much loss felt.

Titsywoo · 19/06/2020 21:10

Sort of. They are certainly not the thing I have missed most but we stay in touch on FB and whatsapp and do zoom chats every weekend. I do miss spending time with people other than those who live in my house though! A evening chatting with my friends once a month out of this house would be amazing right now!

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HotSince82 · 19/06/2020 21:11

@gobbynorthernbird I didn't mean the OP to be insensitive. I'd struggle immensely if I lived alone and worked from home.

I think my DC may be antisocial too, only the eldest misses his friends, but he is almost fifteen so has been for socially distance so he tells me bike rides and runs with a few of his classmates.
The four youngest are happy to spend time in each other's company in the main.

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Sparklesocks · 19/06/2020 21:12

Yes a lot. The zoom calls have been nice but not the same. Would give anything to all be sitting in a restaurant or pub and laughing like drains over the silliest things.

ssd · 19/06/2020 21:12

I've not really missed friends as I've been walking with them sometimes.
What I miss is the peace of lockdown
The silence, the feeling the world had stopped
No one was going out, meeting family, everyone was in, like me.. And I didn't feel so bad, I felt peaceful

Now every thing is about meeting up with family and friends you haven't seen for ages and all my family bar us 4 are dead, so there's no one I'm actually missing

I'm missing the break from it all.

Guttersnipe · 19/06/2020 21:12

No, not missed them at all for 2 reasons. Firstly, I don't really have friends I see on a daily or even weekly basis. My dh fulfils that role. Secondly, a lot of the friends I do have live all over the place and I might not see them for years. Some of us have been zooming over lockdown meaning I have actually spent more time with them, albeit remotely, than I have for the last 30 years.

MilaRos · 19/06/2020 21:12

I'm perfectly happy with my DH and DCs, I've seen DM and been on walks etc I prefer being with family and a few close friends.

Taswama · 19/06/2020 21:13

Yes I have and also most of my colleagues.
I’ve done zoom calls / phone calls but it’s not the same.

Drivingdownthe101 · 19/06/2020 21:14

Yes definitely, I love my friends and enjoy their company. That’s why they’re my friends.
My DC have missed theirs too. When DD1 (year 1) went back to school she came home and sobbed. I asked why she was upset and she said ‘I just hadn’t realised how much I missed my friends until I saw them again’.

Imissmoominmama · 19/06/2020 21:15

I’ve loved being at home with DH and DS, but going for lots of solitary walks and bike rides. I’ve been working too, but my job is quite self contained. I think I’ve realised quite how much I enjoy my own company.

SimonJT · 19/06/2020 21:16

I miss them a lot, I have a fairly small group of friends but we’re very close, until fairly recently a few of us had lived together for a few years. I would normally see at least one friend a day, so it has been a big change. Meeting at the park is nice, but not having the physical closeness, going to each to others homes etc is hard.

Egghead68 · 19/06/2020 21:16

No I’m very antisocial and quite happy to see no one!

Juanmorebeer · 19/06/2020 21:16

I miss mine so, so much it's horrible

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