Post Lockdown - love your OH more - or less ?

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With lockdown easing and most of us having spent the longest time ever with our OH’s day and night - have you found you love them more or love them less ? And why ?

Awww what lovely comments! We've got in really well during lockdown too

More definitely. We have really worked on our communication and I just know that he's my guy. Hopefully he feels the same!

The same I think, but we've definitely ramped up the team working (and I thought we were already good at that).

Love him the same but appreciate him more :)

I bloody love DH! Feel so lucky.

It’s interesting that although ( at the moment ) 15 % of people have voted LESS, every post so far has been with More or the Same. Curious why LESS haven’t said why x

The same.

He handles the majority of household things because I'm wfh and, most importantly, gives me space and quiet to both get on with spreadsheet wrangling and to sit downstairs with my coffee first thing in blissful silence.

He worked out quite quickly that having the TV on annoying 80s TV shows in the same room as me was a trifle thoughtless, so stopped doing that and, although he still tries to talk at me from time to time about 'things' whilst I'm in the middle of three massive spreadsheets, emails, calls, a shitty remote access system, a clunky and slow database, bulk emailers and various people chipping in with various conflicting suggestions on how to Unnecessarily Complicate Everything To The Point Of Failure, he ever takes umbrage at the fact that I am clearly not listening to a word he says until I stop, turn my head and blink at him.

And then he goes to work and leaves me in total peace until he comes back with dinner, cat food and usually some sort of snack.

It's great.

I won’t lie, to begin with when I was working from home and he was spending his days pottering about doing DIY and watching films all day there were times when I felt quite murderous.
However, we’re much much closer than before now and feel like we definitely love each other more. We used to bicker quite a lot and I think having to be with each other all day every day meant we got used to ignoring mild irritations a lot better.
Now he’s back at work and I’m home alone all day, I really look forward to him coming home!

More. Part of that is we have had a lot of fun as a family, and some is pure gratitude that I am settled with a partner and DC and not lonely.

Also, we are having a lot of sex which is definitely an upside of lockdown.

Personally, I am retired and used to my own space. At first I thought it would be awful having my OH at home, - as I thought “ getting under my feet”.But his job allows him to WFH , so from 8.30 till 4 pm he is busy in our little office, so although he’s here, he sort of isn’t.
I found I’ve actually enjoyed him being here , and it looks as if he can do much more flexible working in the future, so it’s worked out the best of both worlds.

Hmmm...Im not sure

At first id definitely have said more.

But now hes really starting to annoy me. Im ready to spend some time with people not him, and just generally take a break from my house/job. Part of this is me though because my mental health is not great rn

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We are retired so no wfh or homeschooling. However he has turned into a grumpy old man and now I can’t get away from him to see friends, go to gym do my voluntary work etc. That patio is looking like it needs a makeover.

Well I can hardly stand the sight of mine!!

More. One of the DC and I are shielding and he's looked after us so well. Even though we've been together for over 20 years, I've never had to rely on him as much as I have over the last few months. I've had a wobble with work stress and he's been really supportive with that too.

The same. He's a great bloke and I feel really safe and secure when he's around. We're working at home either side of the dining table often in companionable silence and it's lovely, especially when he's supplying me with coffee. I'm loving being with him.

More, but we have only been together just over a year so we should be in the ‘honeymoon’ phase.

Moving in together for lockdown has been intense at times, more so for him. But we’ve done it, we haven’t got on each others nerves, we haven’t argued, moving in together is always hard but even more so right now as there is no escape. Hes just so lovely, kind and patient.

Definitely more the guys a legend

Also more, and I relate to a lot of the above comments. I think for the first time we really appreciate how hard the other works. We’ve felt like more of a team. He’s started talking about having to travel for work again in the not too distant future and the thought of it makes me miserable.

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More. It's been very challenging at times, lockdown with a baby and a toddler has been tough. But we've been a team and while there have been moments where I could have cheerfully thrown him under a bus (and no doubt t he thinks the same of me sometimes) we are definitely closer and stronger.

To begin with it was more and now it's less. To the point where I wish he'd fuck off to work tbh. It's really annoying when you're struggling to keep a baby entertained and keep on top of housework whilst a grown man sits on his phone and watches and only does things when asked.

More - we've enjoyed the time together, he's never been off work for this long in all the time I've known him (he's furloughed ATM and often travels for work) .

The same. We were rock solid before and still are, we make a great team and always have. Don't get me wrong, we have a toddler and have both been wfh full-time so it's been stressful and we've both felt plenty of frustration. But nothing actually within our relationship.

More, the day Lockdown started I was looking into my options for selling the house and starting divorce proceedings. Three months later, while things are far from perfect, they are so much better.