Okay - long story so I’ll try to be as clear as possible.
My husband has two sisters - one older and one younger.
I’ll call the older one SIL A and the younger SIL B.
I’ve never been very close with SIL A and her husband but get on really well with SIL B
So myself and SIL A were pregnant at the same time and our babies were born 2 weeks apart. She had a girl and I had a boy.
I suffered quite badly with PND after DS was born which really affected my ability to bond with him. Luckily I’m a lot better now and can honestly say I love my little boy more than anything. However I do have feelings of regret that I was unable to bond with him in the early days and didn’t enjoy the newborn phase at all.
Anyway - my PND got to the point where I ended up having a breakdown and announcing to a room full of people that my baby was a mistake. He was not a mistake - he was a very much planned for and loved baby.
SIL B has recently told me that SIL As husband said to my relatives that the reason I was so upset was because “she wanted to have a girl”. At the time I found it funny and laughed it off, the man barely even knows me!! but the more I think about it the more it upsets me. I already feel extremely guilty about the thoughts I had towards DS in the beginning without someone else spreading lies like that.
Would you confront him? Or just let it go? Obviously with the covid situation I haven’t actually seen him since but the idea of having to interact with him again - knowing what he said and thinks of me - is really making me anxious.