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Copycat

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Lilly1000 · 15/06/2020 00:22

AIBU? My child is friends with another child, whose mother is a nightmare. For years she has copied everything that I have bought for myself and especially my child. She has always asked repeatedly where is this from and made every effort to get the same especially for her child. When they were toddlers It was annoying but I tried to ignore it. Now they are older, it is irritating to the point I don’t like to tell her where I bought items. Now she has decided to send her child to the same school as mine (had other options available) It will only get worse. I feel so angry and livid. I was happy having limited contact. Now they will be constantly there despite my trying to keep them at arms length. I can’t cut off all contact as the children are friends. Just feel so angry. AIBU?

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DoesJeffKnow · 15/06/2020 13:23

Next time she asks where you purchased something, just say:

"I'd rather not tell you as I find it irritating when your child turns up in the same outfit as mine."

Maybe she thinks copying you is flattering.

Unpolularopinion · 15/06/2020 13:27

I had one of these. I decided to put an appeal in for a different primary school as I just felt sick at the thought of the constant bloody competitiveness for the next god knows how many years!
I cut ties with this woman and my life is just wonderful now

ToBBQorNotToBBQ · 15/06/2020 18:09

My friend has always done this. Kids are double digits now. I just take it as her kid likes what mine has. Couldn't care less.

Lilly1000 · 15/06/2020 19:00

dontdisturbmenow - it is one mother. (‘as stated).

DoesJeffKnow - don’t want to hurt her feelings but may have to drop hints as I can not have more years of this. Hopefully as others have said less involvement as secondary school.

Unpolularopinion - sorry about your experience. You will fully understand,

ToBBQorNotToBBQ - it’s interesting to know that there are others who behave like this too. Wish I could be as relaxed as you 😊

Thank you to all those who have put up sound advice and for understanding the situation. I very much appreciate your time. Today I am not so annoyed, I will have to have much less to do with her....that is the way forward 😊

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Unpolularopinion · 15/06/2020 20:22

Oh I completely understand. This woman is a very anxious person but doesn’t show it. It’s like she didn’t have her own mind. It got creepy. I got rid!

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