Bikinis?

[Talksense]

To not understand why it’s inappropriate to be walking around in underwear but bikinis at the pool/beach is absolutely normal?

The heebee-jeebee thread got me thinking and while they don’t quite give me the heebee-Jeebees the idea makes me a bit .

I’m meant to be going on a family holiday in the autumn with my DP family and my MIL has been talking about summer wardrobes etc for the holiday. I wouldn’t walk around my BIL/FIL in my underwear as everyone would be same with if my SIL did but laying out on the pool side it’s okay. Same with people sunbathing topless but breastfeeding its sometimes a problem.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone standing in a shop in a bra trying on a top instead of going to the changing room but it’s okay being in a bra made out of waterproof material in front of hundreds of people at a pool/beach.

I don’t mean to come across judgy as I used to wear bikinis all the time as a teen and I’m all for female empowerment/confidence. I just don’t get it. Same with my DP as if he says around my parents/outside our home he won’t walk around in his boxers but really they cover up the same as his trunks.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone standing in a shop in a bra trying on a top instead of going to the changing

I've done it when the changing room has been busy.

Lots of clothing is contextual - e.g. you also wouldn't wear a beekeeper suit to Tesco.

wear what you feel comfortable in, and just be aware of your surroundings, and try not to make others feel uncomfortable with lack of clothing.
For example, I often wear pyjama trousers as loungewear around the house. Logically I know that they although they are made out of 'pyjama type fabric' (think cotton check), they are equally robust as many non-pyjama lounge.casual trousers, I'd probably change them if I went across the road to the supermarket.

@Etcni

Lots of clothing is contextual - e.g. you also wouldn't wear a beekeeper suit to Tesco.

I agree it's about context.

This is one of the reasons I don't wear a bikini at the table, when my inlaws invite me to Sunday lunch.

time and a place...

If you try to sunbath topless at the terrace of your local coffee shop, that won't go down too well.

You are correct not many of us would sit comfortably in a bikini beside our fil.think its because we abroad and attitudes are different .we are British it's just not our thing

OP are correct think. It’s contextual.
Underwear is designed to be under clothes, hidden, and is sexualised. I agree though, the difference is only in them mind, and I wouldn’t like to be around in-laws in either!

I've always thought this OP! When I went on holiday a few years ago I wore a bikini round the pool and the Male of the couple we'd made friends with came into our apartment (him and then DH were going it for drinks) I was in my underwear that covered more of my body than my bikini and nearly died of embarrassment WTF

This is one reason I've always hated going swimming. I don't feel comfortable walking around in waterproof underwear in public. It makes me feel embarrassed.

At the beach I'm in and out the water. So I want something that dries quickly. Jeans and a jumper would probably get a bit soggy

you also wouldn't wear a beekeeper suit to Tesco.
Actually, in 2020, not such a bad idea.

You must be bored... otherwise I am worried 😂

It’s what’s appropriate for the situation. I often go topless at the beach but l wouldn’t walk along the promenade even in swimwear. I’ve got nice lingerie but l wouldn’t wear that on the beach either.

I’ve done the strip down to my bra thing to try a top on in a market in France, but others were doing the same.

I have always thought this same thing. And speaking of context, is this the same thing as a woman wearing shorts is somehow more acceptable than a woman wearing a skirt of the same length iyswim?