Am I being unreasonable to want peace

[snoopy2016]

Yesterday two boys were playing with a football in a small communal area the other side of the wall that’s at the side of my garden. The ball was hitting the wall quite a lot and my daughter asked them to stop kicking it against the wall and they said ok. Seconds later it was kicked over the wall to my garden.I gave it back to them.

They then carried on so I shut my back door as the noise was really annoying and about 10 minutes later the ball came over my wall again into my garden. His mother rang my door bell and asked for the ball back and started demanding to know why we were rude to her son I explained we asked him to stop kicking the ball against the wall as I’ve worked 60 hours this week and wanted some peace and asked why he couldn’t play on his own garden, she stated she doesn’t have one (which all the houses do part from the flats in this estate) she then said was it such a big deal he kicked it into our garden twice and made out I was at fault for being annoyed.

She said that due to lockdown they were fed up and she had let them out to play and thought it was completely justified him kicking the ball over the wall twice she said oh big deal, there are parks near here too within walking distance and the bit of grass they were playing on would fit about three parked a cars. She said I refused to give the ball back the second time l, which I didn’t he didn’t even ask me for it and I said if had rang the doorbell as she had done and asked for it back I’d have given it to him, she then told me I was treating her like an arsehole, at this point I closed the door to be called an arsehole myself. AIBU to think they should be playing in their own garden or at the very least not keep kicking the ball up the wall and kicking it over my wall?

YANBU imo, OP, but I'm so sick and tired of noise I suspect I may BU myself.

Round my way it's endless bloody building works (as soon as one house finishes their extension, another one starts) endless bloody deliveries, including building materials, and I'm starting to seriously consider the possibility that people take in turns to mow/strim/hedge trim so that there's never more than a few minutes of peace between them.

Someone today was using a petrol strimmer that was so loud, even DP got the hump with it. He contemplated getting the loudest of the motorbikes out and giving it a tune-up outside the offending strimmer's house. I think it's worse because we're both WFH so get little respite from it during the week.

Anyway, even if you were BU, she was BVU to swear at you.

Round my way it's endless bloody building works (as soon as one house finishes their extension, another one starts) endless bloody deliveries, including building materials, and I'm starting to seriously consider the possibility that people take in turns to mow/strim/hedge trim so that there's never more than a few minutes of peace between them.

Me too. My next door neighbour has had builders here every single day since March last year

Gardeners are THE WORST.

OP YANBU. Some people are just really rude and entitled.

My suggestion is to not answer the door. It may encourage them to play on the other side.

Keep your gate locked.

Return the ball later. And if they ring later explain you were on a work call earlier and arent always available to answer the door immediately.

It sounds infuriating and if there are parks nearby, no need.

We have builders here as it’s a new estate still in progress but they don’t work weekends and if they do it generally quiet jobs. I don’t mind kids generally playing even when they’re svlcreaming etc but the thumping noise just got to me yesterday I was so tired I just wanted a rest day

I wrote a similar post last month! The difference was the boy was bashing the ball against my fence (I own it) and damaging it. I let it go all these years but during lockdown it’s been going on all day everyday. I’m sick of him. I got awful responses on here such as “sounds like you hate kids” uuum I have kids if my own so no I don’t hate them! and “you are being unreasonable” etc. Etc. I’m trying to find the thread for you it was in 30 days so might have been deleted by now.

I am so sick of my neighbours, they are educated and professional people but allow their kids to run riot and cause damage to my property. Funny enough the other fence that they own is pristine as they don’t allow him to kick ball against it! You’re getting positive responses on here but won’t be long before the negative ones start so all I want to say is YES you are 100% reasonable for wanting peace and quiet in your garden.

It’s a horrible sound isn’t it the constant booody thud thud thud. I honestly feel I’m going crazy. I have headphones on but it’s not always possible as my youngest is only 6 months old so I need to be able to hear my kids. Last week it was raining but he was still bashing his ball against my fence. I think my problem is I’ve been slightly passive- aggressive so I have sometimes said “oh gosh” and “please be careful” when he’s bashing it, obviously so that the parents can hear. I feel I can’t talk to them openly now as they know it’s bothering me but have not put a stop to it.

It’s a horrible noise I totally agree, and when it’s constantly going it drives you insane. I had to TV on so loud yesterday because I couldn’t stand the noise at all

I can still hear him inside the house with tv in, my kids running around and all windows closed! It’s like torpedoes going off. Sone people are very entitled and selfish. When my baby cries I bring everyone inside so not to bother my neighbours! My husband keeps telling me to let our kids run riot too but no I don’t want the other neighbors on the back and the other side to suffer.

YANBU. I would be popping the ball and refusing to give it back.