Over the years my sons dad has been involved in his life but very much on his terms and when it suits him and expects me to agree on what he wants because I am expected to be understanding of his work life. His view is also that i should not make future plans for holidays, weekends away, days out etc without consulting him first incase he wants our son that week!
Last year I had reached a point where I had enough of this, he produced a list of dates over 2/3 month period he wanted to see his son - I know these timings are based on the time with his girlfriend and then seeing my son fitting around this, although this is under the disguise as working away. One of the weeks he gave working abroad as a reason he couldn’t see him I drove past him in our home town, another time he cancelled plans with a work excuse, a friend looked on his social media and saw his was posting pictures on holiday abroad with his girlfriend.
This is where it comes to the present. He hasn’t been in touch with myself or our son for months, not a word. My sons attempts to txt him have gone ignored. During this time he also cancelled his maintenance payment without a word. He has recently got back in touch all this time with a message basically telling me he will be seeing his son this week.
For me it’s come to a point where it needs have something official in place. Has anyone on here dealt with anything similar?
AIBU to say no to contact until an agreement can be made?