Meh

[Greyandpink]

So.... i just feel a bit shitty. (Not in a poor me way)

Im 32, single mum but i do have a bf of a year who's great were happy.

Have a bit of life stuff going on... but the main thing is where i am in life.

I havent got a career really, im currently working for min wage which is being topped up by universal cred. Im also in debt of about 30k. Awful with money.

Ive worked since i was college age working as an administrator in estate agencies. The highest salary i blagged was 35k at one point. Then i took a part time job and the salary has just been crap. Ive now just accepted a job at 24k full time.

Its just another job, ive never really known what i want to do with my life. Ive started a couple of businesses which were short lived. Maybe ive lost my self worth. Probably as i put up with alot of shit.

Is anyone else in the same boat?

I just feel like i should at least by now have some bloody direction i feel like a child! What a shitty example for my daughter.

TIA

Same here. 35. Single mum of 2. 3 years ago I met an amazing man. Fell head over heels. Had a (min wage) job that I loved. Then I had some kind of mental breakdown. BF left because he "couldn't stand my kids".

I honestly don't know what to do with my life. :(

Wel you must be awful with money on £24k and in £30grand of debt. I don,t think not being ambitious is bad, I have a degree but don,t need it for my job, it,s not a good wage but I enjoy the job. If you don,t like your job find something you will enjoy and if not work wise do an evening class, some volunteer work a hobby something that gives you a sense of purpose or fulfilment. My oh can not work but has started to teach himself French.(not saying do that just sometimes it,s not about actual work.)

This book might help: how to do everything and be happy by peter jones.

Posted too soon. Might help you work out what you want your life to look like and how to get to get it there.

Recommend thepennypal and myfrugalyear on Instagram for budgeting tips. Sorry you’re feeling down but there’s still time to turn things around.

@StrictlyAFemaleFemale Thanks so much! I was just thinking i need a new book :-)

@TheFormerPorpentiaScamander :-( shit about the guy, but sounds like youre better off!
Crap feeling isnt it, its like a vicious cycle because you feel bad about not being in a good position then that negativity just stops you in your tracks.
Do you have one thing youre heading towards more?xx

@Sparklesocks thanks, i actually follow thepennypal already :-) my debt situation i feel ok about as ive taken my head out of the sand and i have a good attack plan to get rid of it but yeah its def more changing whole lifestyle xx

@Greyandpink its totally shit and I never ever thought he'd hurt me like that. Hes dating someone else with a child now. Wonder how long before he decides he cant cope with that one either :(

At the moment the only thing I'm working towards is sorting my house out and being able to leave the house without having a panic attack. Longer term I think I'd like to study some more.

and hugs

Best of luck to you ❤️