Aibu? Friend advice

[StormsDontLastForever]

My anxiety has been through the roof the last few days, over analysing every situation. I feel like my best friend is being weird with me, last few days she's not been texting me as much as usual and some texts she's opening and not replying but others she is. I asked if she was angry at me or anything and she said no don't be silly but has still been a bit off with me. Any advice on what to do? I don't want to keep pestering her but it's making me anxious

People have their own things going on. Are you bombarding her with messages?
She's said you haven't done anything so just leave it and accept what she's said .

Everyone is on edge and short fused. Let it go and be kind to her and to yourself.

Maybe she's just got other stuff going on. I too am an anxious person and so is one of my closest friends. We've often thought the other is being 'off' for some reason and it's never been the case!

Has she been off with you in her responses? Or just you feel she's being off when she doesn't respond?
I often have the energy to text my bestie in the morning but by the end of an absolutely exhausting day with my own anxieties, work and family issues I don't have anything left to give and can't reply. I especially don't want to burden my already anxious friend with my own issues.
My point being - she might not be being 'off' with you and simply has other reasons for not replying. This is a softer, friendlier way of saying 'it isn't always about you' when someone doesn't reply. Try not to let it play on your mind (easier said than done with anxiety I know) and do other things to distract yourself. Just wait for her to reply, I'm sure she will eventually. Maybe she just needs a break from replying to everyone 😊

Like the others have said, she may have her own stuff going on.
Might be an idea to give her a call/vid chat to see that she's doing ok.

Thanks everyone for the advice. Not really off with me as such but not as talkative etc as usual. I know it's a hard time for everyone just now and she is a key worker so I know she is busy at times etc. We just used to talk every day and video etc and I just don't want to think I've done anything wrong to upset her. It probably is just my anxiety making me over think it but not like her not to reply sometimes. Thanks for advice.

I get so worried when friends do this, sure that I have somehow pissed them off (this has happened in the past). Dont have a solution but I know how you feel!

Have you booked an appointment with your GP?
Your anxiety needs attention.
Your friend might have other friends or life events going on in her life which she doesn’t want to share with you.
Sometimes they just need a bit of a distance.

Op, I have had something v similar in recent weeks. Firstly, i think the volume of daily contact you had with your friend is a little excessive but, i am a little jealous as i have no best friend and would like one! So maybe my views on this are a bit skewed.

That said , i think if you feel something different then you may be right. I had very similar situation in recent weeks and same feeling as you and i was right! I did spk to my 'good' friend last Thurs and the issue is basically on her side. Long story short she gave me 3 separate reasons over 2 weeks as to why she could not do something and each a lie. I am upset that she has lied and that has now altered my opinion of her and i have decided now to cool the friendship even though i value it. They were 3 white lies but lies all the same. My friend does not have the demands on her that yours does. So this is something she could have done but choose not to iyswim. It all revolves around an opportunity to see my friend at mine , for socially distanced wine in my garden, for the first time in 3 months with maybe twice a month short txt conversation in between so no overkill by any means. But, it would have meant a lot to me as i am on my own and have been my on my own with the DC's and no visitors for months! Basically she could not be bothered but rolled these diff excuses out which i found insulting and would rather she had just said i can't be bothered!

My point is that if you 'feel' something is off then our gut instincts are usually right. Mine were and i was no where near as involved with this friend as you are with yours. I would just give your friend some space and see how the relationship / friendship is later in the year. Try and fill your time and occupy your mind for now. Relying on a singular person so heavily as part of a daily routine is not ideal. If your instincts are telling you something then follow them as that is natures way of protecting us. But, don't dwell and carry on as normal as you will end up all consumed pondering on this and its a waste if your head space and will add to your anxiety. Find something else to do when you would normally be on line with your friend. If and when she is ready she will come back. If not, you are and will be in a good place.

Yes this sounds like your anxiety. Have you had a gp review recently?