or rather your thoughts please......

[deuxcheekymonkeys]

I had a long standing arrangement with a friend yesterday. We were going for a girlie afternoon and she was going to take me for a belated dinner and birthday cocktails. I was really looking forward to it. On Saturday morning, she called to say he was at the airport as she had been offered last minute a freebie/jolly to watch Scotland vs NZ with her hubby. (They don't like Rugby). I was understanding, as in the same position I would cancel also (I love Rugby). HOwever, lots of people have said that she was out of order for cancelling a long standing arrangement as something better had come along.....what do you think?? (Im sitting on the fence at the moment)

Ta

i think she should have rung you before she accepted and also a bit earlier (i.e before she left for the airport)

hmmm- I would be miffed as well. Is she going to rearrange it with you?

if it were me i wouldnt mind at all that my mate went to the rugby. its 2 good an oppertunity to miss out on. and she will probably make it up to you.

She could and should have rung you earlier.

Must be honest though, I'd have gone like a shot.

and if it was me who got the tickets you wouldnt see me for dust

OK for her to go, I think, but she should have rung you earlier. And she should be making a MAJOR effort to reschedule an even-better-than-expected girlie afternoon (or even weekend) at the earliest opportunity.

hmmm...mixed views....she said that she had tried to call me on friday night and had to make a snap decision......My hubby thinks she is wrong to cancel as I was desperately looking forward to it and that just because something better came along she shouldn't have cancelled......He said that if they LOVED rugby, fair enough,,,,,but they couldn't even tell you who was in the qualifying groups.....Im still on the fence as if it was me who adores Rugby I would have gone....

Agree with the others, deux, don't blame her for going to the rugby as its something that you'd rarely get the chance to do, but she should have rung you earlier and she really should make it up to you big time! Perhaps lots of cocktails would be a good start I drank lots of Aegeans on holiday - yum!!

blimey, well I'm obviously out of step then because i think this is rude and she should have kept to your previous arrangement.

Dinner and cocktails for your birthday was a proper 'date', it wasn't as if she was just coming to yours to sit on the sofa. It's just good manners not to cancel when you get a 'better' offer.

if youre not offended, then that prob means she A, would have known you wouldnt be and
B, intends to make it up to you and you know this without having to ask.

no? think people stirring you up and causing resentment where there is none is a bit off tbh...

Don't blame her going, who would turn down a freebie day out?? She did say she tried to call you on Friday night and if her OH was pushing for an answer she had to make the decision there and then.

Feel for you though cos you'd obviously really been looking forward to it. If she's a true friend she'll make it up to you.

At least she was honest with you. A lot of people in that situation would have feigned illness to get out of your night out.

So she deserves credit for that, and given that you would have done the same....

it is very easy to rearrange a girlie afternoon and dinner

it is not possible to rearrange a freebie like that

good friends should understand and make allowances

you wouldn't have wanted her to miss out so if she had called to ask you'd have told her to go I'm sure ... because that's what a friend would do .. so its a moot point

she's not being unreasonable IMO

I would be miffed as I was looking forward to it - although understanding at the same time.

But it would definatley have to be re-arranged or I would be really fed-up

Yep, goes without saying that she owes you a large drink

She should have called you sooner and grovelled harder . But it's OK to ask a girlfriend to reschedule if something exceptional comes up.