To be so upset...

[Icanflyhigh]

I know I'm not, but part of me feels like I'm being really mardy.

I should be marrying DP tomorrow, we had planned and planned and organised and we were so excited and now it's all postponed until next year and I'm gutted.

That's it.

Ah I'm sorry. You are totally allowed to be sad about this.some fucker will be along shortly to bemoan you feeling down about this.

Ah no course not i can understand that. All that planning etc. I hope you manage to have a nice day still and a few drinks and laughs

Speaking from experience, the best bit about getting married for me was the build up and the preparation, once it’s over, that’s it and you wish it was yesterday all over again.

I hope you have a great day for not-wedding, doing whatever you can to make it a good day. I wish you an even better actual wedding next year. You’ll have the most wonderful time :-)

You have every right to be miserable right now. It's a massive disappointment! My cousin's daughter was engaged 4 years ago and her fiance walked out on her 1 month before their wedding. She was devastated. Flash to this year, she's engaged again and was supposed to get married about 5 weeks ago, and of course it was cancelled until next year. Needless to say, she has had a very rough go of it, and not because she's some self-absorbed drama queen. She's just sad and frustrated. I can't say I blame her!

Ah. That's shit. Do you have any nice planned for tomorrow to mark the day anyway?

You are absolutely allowed to be hacked off, of course you are. If you want a right wallow, tell us some details you planned for your day - I love a wedding planning thread.

Of course you’re upset! I’m so sorry. I would be devastated too if it had happened to me. I’m so sorry and when you do get married next year it will be fabulous

I know how you feel. My wedding has been postponed. I think doing something really nice tomorrow will help. Have you got any plans for the weekend?
My date was this August and I am sure I will feel sad closer to what was meant to be my wedding day.
Remember it's not cancelled, it's just delayed.

How disappointing. The weekend has all the hallmarks of being depressing from your locked down perspective. Hope you can plan in something soothing and look after yourselves.

It's a big day - it was meant to be THE day. Buy a bottle of bubbly and have a good day together tomorrow, to celebrate and make lovely plans.

Ack I'm sorry, that's so disappointing after all the effort that goes into organising. Have you got anything nice planned to mark the day?
Hopefully your rearranged weather will be better!

You have every right to be feeling upset, @Icanflyhigh - have a big hug from me.

Thanks all!

DP is being awesome and he is just as sad as me. We've had some lovely messages from friends and family, but each time another arrives, I cry again!

We had planned down to the last detail of the church at 3, photos then straight to a huge party with a band and a DJ with a fish n chip van, hog roast and ice cream vans, all finished off with a big fireworks display at 11pm!

No sit down meal as we don't want the formality, but all.pf our friends and family with us at a venue where we can make use of our camper van and stay for the weekend.

It IS all rearranged for next June and we haven't lost a penny, but I was so looking forward to it all.

I know we have another year to build excitement and plan more, I just feel sad!

Bubbles with our bridesmaids tomorrow to make a toast!

I'm so sorry for you and I'm not surprised that you're sad. You're absolutely allowed to be sad. Hope you have nice bubbles with your bridesmaids.

You're allowed to be gutted >

Sounds like an awesome plan for next year though.

You are right to be upset but look to the future and your day will come.
XXX

Awk, YANBU at all.

Use this year to save up and add something outrageous to the wedding.

Have you ever seen an ice sculpture luge? They are brilliant! :o

Aw, I am so sorry. That truly sucks. I would be disappointed too.

OP,

Sending

It is one of those things that due to the current situation you've been a victim of. Have a drink with your bridesmaids, sob and enjoy the next year, preparing for your wedding.

You're absolutely allowed to be upset.

Thanks all, bubbles and the hot tub is the order of the day today.
We should have got married 45 mins ago. I had my tears, we listened to our first dance song and now I'm going to get royally pissed 😂😂😂

Not entirely sure what 'mardy' means but from the way you've used it I'm assuming it means you're wondering if you're being a bit 'spoilt', or similar, to feel as sad as you do.

Absolutely not. It must be an awful disappointment.

My DS and his DP had to postpone their wedding that was due to happen soon after the start of lockdown.

I felt so sorry for them. Everyone, friends and family, understood how sad they would be and we all sent messages.

They made a bit of a special day for themselves on the day it should have been. Can't tell you how much we're all looking forward to when it can actually go ahead.

I hope you can have a special day today. When you do have your wedding I'm sure it'll feel extra special.

It’s perfectly understandable to feel down about it OP. You never could’ve imagined this outcome when you planned the wedding, or back earlier in the year - it’s disappointing and gutting. But pp are right, you will get there next year and have a beautiful day

My brother was due to get married next weekend and he and his fiancé are feeling the same way as you are. They were both meant to be on their stag and hen dos this weekend so they’ve been making cocktails and have fun. I was thinking of sending them some flowers or a bottle of champers next week to keep them going.

Do something nice for yourselves and don’t feel bad for feeling disappointed, it’s completely fair!

Of course you're entitled to be upset. It's absolutely shit.