Ok this might be long so please bear with me.
I can’t stop thinking about my first love. Who I think may have been my only real love.
I met him when we were both teenagers and we grew up together. It was on, off, on, off throughout our mid teens and into our early twenties. It was literally love at first sight, the cliché...I saw him and I remember that moment very clearly and I was only 15 at the time. He made me laugh so much and was an all round beautiful person, in both his physical appearance and his personality.
We drifted apart throughout the years, but whenever we came back together there was an invisible pull from each of us, towards the other and even if we were with someone at the time, we inevitably ended up together again.
Throughout my life since, I have had other partners, I am currently living with my fiancé and we have a child together. But I still think about him. I don’t understand it. The only thing I can think is that he was my real love and I missed it. If there is such a thing as ‘true love’.
I still have him on social media, as well as lots of our mutual friends. A couple of years ago I saw he’d got married, it was like a punch to the stomach. I’ve also heard through mutual friends that his wife is very controlling and doesn’t allow him to see his old friends anymore. That was reflected in the wedding photos I saw.
The other thing friends have told me is that his wife looks just like me. I must admit I had that thought when I saw her.
I don’t know how to move past this.
Last year he followed me on Instagram and liked some of my photos. It sounds extremely trivial, but it just made me think about ‘what could have been’ even more.
I know this all sounds so pathetic. Please be kind. I feel so mixed up. And I would never cheat on my current partner.
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Ladybird89 · 12/06/2020 21:20
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