Farting triggers me!

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I used to think farts were funny.

Then I met my now EXH.

He used to fart during times when I'd be really upset about something, or when we'd be arguing. It was always accompanied by a sneer. He used it as a way of belittling what I had to say or for ending the conversation or derailing it. He was very abusive in other ways too (verbal, physical, emotional)

My lovely husband just farted twice in bed and I got the rage. I couldn't help it. I'm usually able to control myself but today it triggered something in me. After the first one I asked him to stop. Then he farted again and I asked him to leave.

He's in the living room now, farting away to his hearts content. And I'm raging! WTF is wrong with me? AIBU?

I dislike people breaking wind in front of me and have told DH I won't accept it and out of respect don't do it in front of each other.

Ah bless him. He probably just though it was the smell and you obviously wasn't as angry as you thought.

Triggers can be anything. It depends on the abuser. It depends on how they disrespected you.

One of mine is dp commenting on my food. Nothing awful, just like 'you hungry?' or 'are you not feeling well, you haven't each much. Are you OK?'

The second one dp would ask our of concern. But exh made most meal times so stressful, I couldn't eat with someone asking me questions. Or even think about eating.

The other is when I am cooking. Exh would cook and I would watch the kids. When I cooked he would sit in the kitchen, with constant little comments about 'you need to add this' or 'why are you doing it that way?'

I would end up stressed. The kids would come in the kitchen and he woild ignore them so I was more stressed. When we ate he would give me 'constructive feedback', he was a her so I had to listen. When I didnt want to cook, because of this, I was lazy. When I did cook, it wasnt good enough.

Now I cabt stand anyone in the kitchen when I cook. At first I woildnt even cook. Me and the kids lived on ready meals and takeaways. Then slowly I started wanting to cook. I am actually very good at it.

But i still can't be doing with people coming in, even if they want to help. Even the dogs know to sit at the door and not come in and one is only 7 months old.

It just immediately puts me on edge.

I hate farts for the same reason, horrible ex would literally force them out with thrusts and it made me feel sick and repulsed.

Triggers are a weird thing aren't they. My EXH knew how I hated when he farted. He would also fart in bed, and force my head under the covers and keep me there. It stank and I couldn't breathe and he thought it was hilarious.

Tickling is another one. He used to pin me down and tickle me until I was crying. I can't bear beinh tickled now.

Also maths... I'm not good with numbers. He used to like to fire simple sums at me and when I couldn't answer straight away, I'd get all flustered and he would become very nasty. He would say I was thick and then sneer at me. I can't even help my dc with their maths homework now.

My ex used to lock himself in the bathroom with knives pretending he was going to kill himself. Or he would randomly collapse and pretend to be unconscious I even phoned ambulances and once they even took him to hospital! And apparently it was just 'anxiety' causing blackouts. Don't believe it. When I finally found the courage to kick him out he left a harrowing suicide note in my coat pocket to find. I threw it in the bin. Then followed 5 years of stalking until he eventually found another victim.
Terrible what kind of people there are in the world isn't it. Why can't people just be nice it's really not difficult.

@Tomatochopped Jesus!!!! What a psycho!!!

Tomatochopped... How awful. Yet again, similar to my ex... Every time I tried to leave him he would threaten suicide. So I kept staying with him.

In the end I was such a shell of a human being I didn't care if he killed himself or not.

Farting is a form of abuse 😂😂😂😂😂

It'd be funny if it wasn't so fucking tragic

www.theguardian.com/world/2020/jun/16/austrian-police-defend-decision-to-fine-man-after-provocative-fart

I rest my case!