AIBU to want to use my own birthday present?

[GlumyGloomer]

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Dd (4yo) thinks that I am. Her birthday is one month before mine. MIL sent me a box of Lush stuff, all very sparkly and colourful, and I foolishly opened it in front of Dd. She is now alternating between begging to 'share' (take) my bath bombs, and insisting that it must be a late present for her. I already gave her one but the rest I quite fancy keeping for me. I ended up suggesting she use her birthday money to buy her own bath bombs, although I should probably be encouraging her to save it. I literally never spend money on pampering myself.
So, YABU: a grown woman does not need a fluorescent glittery bath. Let Dd have them and make sure she saves her money.
YANBU: a grown woman should not be nagged out of her present by her 4 year old. Dd can use her own money if she wants more and let it be a lesson in budgeting.
Also worth a note that usually Dd shares a bath with her 10 month old sister, whom I do not want covered in glitter, so letting Dd have them will generate extra work in terms of bathing them separately.

Do what you like. You’re in charge.

Yanbu

You’re the adult here. If you want to keep them, keep them and say no. It’s as simple as that.

You don't have to share, it's your gift.

I find most Lush bathbombs are so big I cut them up into quarters so they end up lasting much longer. If you're cheap like me 😁 you could consider doing that and giving her a bit?

OP you can share by breaking the bombs or even bath together. If you don't want then that is fine too.

One rule in our house, i don't share my bath bombs, particularly lush ones! Way i get around it is i let ds get in the bath after me so I've enjoyed the mega hot water and he can have it when its cool

Can you not buy her a couple of her own kiddie bath bombs?

One of my favourite times when DD was 4 was sharing a bath together with a cocktail (OJ and lemonade for her and something stronger for me) and relaxing and chatting together - share your bath problem solved?

Let her get in the bath with you!

At some point they have to learn that not everything is about them. Keep your bath bombs or you're making a rod for your own back.

YANBU!!

Lush opens on Monday you can buy some more then! Or you can be an adult and tell her no?

Would you allow her to share (take) another child’s birthday present, or would you be explaining that it’s not for her and she gets her own presents on her own birthday?
No reason why your answer should be different just because you’re an adult.

I think she should be clear that she isn't entitled to something that was gifted to you.

However I would share some with her, just because it is kind and exciting for her. Then again, I am a soft touch, and I'd probably get as much pleasure from seeing her pleasure as using them myself.

I would also want to role model kind sharing as I guarantee she will have to do a lot of sharing with her younger sibling over the years. You can show how to share generously with someone smaller.

You need to teach her that nobody has to share their birthday present/special toy/ food/whatever with anyone.
This was madness lies and she will grow up thinking she's entited to have whatever she wants. Stop it now and save yourself all the dealing with a spoilt entitled teen later.

Imo dc should know adults can have nice things too!! I used to take cream cakes for me and a friend to her house and a box of gingerbread men for the dc. She always let her dd have most of her cake and it drove me nuts!!

Youd make a massive rod for your own back and the backs of everyone who encounters your daughter by teaching her that she can have someone elses stuff, especially a gift , by demanding and pestering enough.
It's yours , you've already shared more than enough.

If she wants bath bombs you need to make a point of using her money to buy some

If you’d decided to share them with her that is very different to her feeling entitled to yours

I always look at those things and anticipate a nasty bout of cystitis. I wouldn't use them and I wouldn't let my child use them.

I never use a whole bath bomb. I put one in a ziplock bag and bash it with a rolling pin and usually get 3 baths out of 1 - can you just give her a little bit of one if you do want to share but still get to keep most of your present?

My dc usually forget about things quickly so I would put them out of sight until such time and then use them once they had gone to bed.

They're your present, you get to decide. It's completely reasonable to say no, your things are yours, not your daughter's. Why wouldn't it be?

You've already given her one, that's enough. Of course you should keep the rest for yourself.

Definitely yours, but why do you want them?

You do know what she wants for her birthday though.

Keep your bath bombs and get her to spend her birthday money on a bath bomb kit do she can make her own... possibly to give to you too 😉