That his mum said she wasn't sure how he felt about me

[JustWantIt]

Hi,
Been with boyfriend a year. We're 23. We sat in a patio today as this is were we have our regular countdown.

He was saying how his brother is moving out with his girlfriend and his mum and him were speaking and the conversation turned to about me and him.

He then said that his mum said that she can see that I am totally in love with him but she's doesn't know about him.
He said he told his mum that he's completely in love with me and that it's probably because he doesnt express it 24/7 when he's at home.

But I don't know, took me back a bit haha

Which is why my brain is overthinking about where she's got this impression from

Most likely: she hasn't, she's stirring. Possibly as she wants to undermine the relationship. Maybe doesn't want him moving out.

Her opinion doesn't matter, however, the real issue is why he told you.

He's either totally clueless and is quite simply relaying a conversation she initiated which puzzled him too, or there's more to it - him wanting you on the back foot, him wanting to undermine you - who knows.

Honestly if you feel he is genuine and there isn't a problem bertween you, then I'd put money on it being his mother putting the boot in for reasons of her own.

Be watchful.

Don't worry about it, or judge her on it, unless another issue comes up. One odd and nosey remark hardly makes the woman a harridan.

The fact he needlessly told you something that could be hurtful to you and make you question your relationship with both him, and her should be the thing that's taking you aback.

I agree with you.

OP, I'd take a step back and watch out for anymore little comments like this. I had an ex who was constantly putting me down and I made all sorts of excuses for him, when actually, in hindsight, he was blatantly an absolute arsehole by the end. I had friends and even strangers trying to tell me.

I don't know why you would say something hurtful to someone you care about - just slipping it in the conversation for the sake of it. Would you? Unless you're quite an insecure person and it makes you feel better about yourself to put other people down.

Not saying this is necessarily the case here but that would be a red flag for me.

My mum once told me I was always so much happier with a boyfriend. It totally confused me (and still does!) as I'd just got a boyfriend after THE BEST year of being single and shagging around and generally just pleasing myself.

Don't think about it too much. If he has a habit of passing on mean comments like this then you have a problem; otherwise just forget about it.