To be hacked off by unreliable people?

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We were supposed to go out a couple of weeks ago for our wedding anniversary, but SIL who was going to look after ds, cancelled the day before.

We have rearranged for today, and now she is going to be an hour and a half late which means that we can't do what we had planned (lunch and a film). Dh has had to go and pick her up as the trains aren't running on our line. I am annoyed as this happens all the time at weekends due to frequent engineering works and she lives on the same line so would know this too.

This will be the first time we have gone out since January so I was rather looking forward to it. Have just had a row with dh who thinks I am just being a cow and so now don't want to go out with someone who thinks I am so vile!!

Why is she going to be late? If it's the trains then YA possibly B a little bit U as she might have expected it to be okay. (benefit of the doubt!)

However, I would be majorly pissed off as well, so can totally understand where you are coming from!

Thanks. Even if she had been on the train (x past the hour) she would not have been here on time anyway. She called us from 8 miles away, 10 mins before she was due to be here.

YANBU. People who are continually unreliable are a pita. I just quietly drop them in the end.

YANBU in that case. I woudl say don't ask her again then. And make a point of not asking her IYSWIM.

I got really wound up with IL's as they were staying 5 minutes from us once when I rang and said I needed them urgently to watch DD (had to go to labour ward) and it took them a fecking HOUR to get here as they wanted to finish breakfast. Will not ask them for an emergency situation again without having backup!

YANBU going out when you have kids is a rare enough treat so you are well within your rights to be upset! Especially as you'd already been let down once before. Last time DH and I went out was over 4 years ago, before dd3 was born so now how important that time is! Make sure you're never available for her too! (I know I should giver her the benefit of the doubt but both my SILs are unreliable so not much patience with them!)