To ask if you’ve gone NC with a parent?

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We’re you sad about it?
If so, how long for.
I haven’t spoken to my dad since Christmas Day. I wouldn’t say it necessarily miss him, but I am sad. I miss my siblings, and a new sibling I will probably not ever meet.
How long did it take for the feelings to pass?

Yep. Not spoken to my dad for over a year. Blissful. No stress, no let downs, no disappointments, no expectations.

Tbh it was better for me from day 1. Bump into him occasionally but I don't acknowledge him. Any pangs of guilt I had have pretty much gone now.

Yes, with dh's Mum. Not spoken for 7 years now.

Also NC since with my dad since Christmas day.
I have pressure from certain family members to reconcile. Mostly from his wife.
He made the decision initially.
Perhaps I'm a shit daughter. I don't believe I am.
He's now missing out on his only grandchildren.
I know father's day will be stressful and he'll be pissed I haven't sent him anything.
Families eh!

I have a small family. But I have my mum and she's amazing, I love her.

16 years no contact with my father. He has not met 3 out of 4 children and never will. He is a non entity in our lives

I haven't seen my mother for 5 years, it was always a patchy relationship. We had several episodes of not speaking but I finally cut contact with her about 3 years ago.
It's far too long and complicated to go into here but I'm much happier without contact.
I'm 62 now and all I feel is relief that she's not in my life. She's 88 and I'll probably never see her again.
My son is 42 and he does have a relationship with her it's an ok relationship, he's much stronger mentally than me.
When the Covid19 pandemic began I said to him that I was thinking that maybe I should get in touch with her. His reply was Mum, don't even go there.
I've thought a great deal about her and why did she treat me the way she did, I've looked back at the things I know about her and her childhood I understand now. With understanding comes forgiveness.
I've grieved for the mother she wasn't but I know I was not the one at fault.
She did her best, unfortunately for me, her best was shit.

Over 1 year NC with mother. I was angry and sad until recently. She has made no efforts to apologise so I’m fine with NC.
She’s not a nice woman.

12 years NC with my dad. I think you go through a process of grieving at first, a bit like a death. But you're not grieving your actual parent, but the one you wanted. That fantasy parent who was kind and generous and supportive.
Like everything, it's different for all of us. I don't think about my dad for months but then I'll think about him everyday for a while. I was angry for a long time, but not really bothered now.

I went NC with my Dad nearly 20 years ago, never regretted it.

Grew up in a very dysfunctional and abusive household and also intend to have absolutely no contact with one extremely abusive sibling down the line. Have already reached bare minimum, but in order to go completely NC I would have to give up family life and celebrations, whilst they enjoyed them and I refuse to let them ruin my life more than they already have.

My real father, yes. I've had minimal contact since I was 10 (36 now) but not spoken at all for 9 years and I'll never have anything to do with him again.
He was a violent, physicslly abusive alcoholic who was nothing more than a sperm donor. In fact, when he dies I've thought about going to the funeral just to make sure he is dead.

Thanks. It’s hard because lockdown happened so he hasn’t been able to come down, and I know as soon as he’s able he will turn up and I just don’t want to see him.
My family keep sending me pictures of his new baby and I just really don’t care. I don’t want to see pictures of his new life, I find it too difficult.
I’m just really pissed off.