To think admins on fb groups are twats

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I was part of a support group for a medical problem, posted something against rules but I didn’t know it was, got blocked from the whole group so inboxed an admin and apologised told them I didn’t realise and asked to be back in the group, got ignored then told I shouldn’t have done it. Again apologised and said the group is a massive support to the be ignored totally. It’s actually upset me. Sounds daft. It’s just a big support made friends on their and find it really nasty of the admin. It’s like she’s having a power trip 😄

I think it depends what you posted.

Yes it’s a power trip some people are like this unfortunately. Start your own group. It may take some time for people to see it. Although you may be able to pay a £5 and boost it. Not sure if this can be done with groups my dh does it for his business.

Nothing offensive just about a medication but it’s strictly no medication talk which I didn’t know

It does seem hard of the admin, i am an admin on a couple of groups and i do try to listen and accept people back. But.... I am a 'normal' person doing this around my busy life,i expect she received multiple messages regarding your post which she had to go to and respond to and then deal with deleting it etc. Group rules are easy to find and it is your responsibility to do so. And she has to be fair. So if the rules say you'll be blocked then that is what will happen. What did you post?

Was it in the 'rules' you have to read when you join? If so, YABU.

Well you can't say that for all groups just because you had one experience

YABU. When you join a group the rules are there for you to read and it’s your responsibility to do so and abide by them.

I think it’s unfair when its a first offence of breaking the rules, and you apologised. Repeat offenders should be kicked out.

I left a few Facebook groups because I couldn’t bear the admins. One was a really interesting food group, I snoop occasionally as they had some good recipes but the admin still seem unbearable haha.

YANBU, some of them take it so personally you’d think you’d ran their dog over or something by their reaction.

Well obviously you shouldn't have posted it but it's extreme to ban someone for one transgression when, by the sounds of it, you've been an active and law-abiding member up till now, OP.

The quality of admin in FB groups is massively variable as it just depends on personalities. Yours might just have a certain kind of person in charge.

I was reading a local COVID support group earlier and someone was respectfully disagreeing with an admin. The admin’s response was not to argue with an admin. FFS.

There’s actually a Facebook group called “You run a Facebook group, not a country but ok”

There are lots of groups like that post a great laundry list of rules for you to agree to and honestly expect you to remember all of them

I think you have to take a test before becoming a Facebook group admin and, if you can answer ‘No’ to the question ‘Am I am insufferable twat with a head boy/girl complex?’, you don’t get the job. 45 year-old virgins who have nothing approaching any power in real life, so invent and enforce petty rules to give themselves a purpose and a sense of superiority.

Maybe because their members are twats? 🤷🏻‍♀️

so invent and enforce petty rules to give themselves a purpose and a sense of superiority

It does seem like that at times, although some people are so nasty in some groups, they need strict admin.

What I don't like is the "turn off commenting" function which the original poster or admin can use when they don't like the responses to something. It is very annoying.

However I enjoyed my head girl moment when I turned off commenting in a group I am an admin of (because the issue had passed, not because the people concerned were being twotsits).

I'm a FB group admin and we have rules quite clearly pinned for everyone to see. In all the years I've done it I think we've only ever banned one person.

That said, all groups are different and some have 'trigger happy' admins, but the bottom line is that there was a rule and you broke it. I'd have issued a warning for a first incident but it depends how seriously it's taken. FWIW we don't allow discussion that involves medical advice or advice on medication because it runs the risk of us/the group being blamed if someone acts on incorrect or dangerous advice.

Yes,I agree,we have a Facebook Village Group,the main Admin is new to the village,she quickly jumped in to start a new group,when old one shut just as she moved in.

She is unbelievably controlling,first to post when we had a bit of excitement (rare here!).Posting what the Police were doing,where they had positioned themselves,on and on she went.The next day when someone asked what happened she turned off commenting on the post as it was “confidential”!

She is forever removing posts and turning off the comments,if she isn’t involved in it! I find it endlessly entertaining.

She has now started a Facebook Group to protest about a new development and has made herself the main spokesperson,interesting to see where that goes,as she is meeting in person with the developers,they will run rings round her.

Love having a bit of living room entertainment in lockdown.

The admins on our village fb group are like school prefects. They will put a post up and then turn off the comments section so nobody can disagree or point out if they've made an error. There's such a long list of "banned" topics that it's not worth bothering with most of the time. They also insist that everyone adds "stay safe friends" on every bloody post!

I'm an admin of a few fb groups and only ever remove posts/ switch off commenting or (last resort) remove someone if they have contravened the very simple rules which they sign up to when they join. If I didn't then there would be complaints from those who stick to the rules.

YABVU to argue that because of your one experience all group admins are little Hitlers.

Eugh some admin are serious nobs! Always noticed this, I now have my own Facebook group and am such a laidback admin because I've learnt how not to be! Seriously you run a Facebook group get over yourself

Our local ‘gossip girl’ (makes me want to vomit) Facebook group is run by a little Hitler too. If you don’t agree with her (very specific) view point that’s it, comments deleted, post deleted, 12 hour ban 😴

I agree with DownToTheSeaAgain - I admin a (big) group on facebook, when you join you have to agree to the rules

The main one which will get you banned is blocking the admin

Otherwise rules are - on topic posts (and tends to be if you have it vaguely related we'll let it go) if it's off topic it will get deleted

Don't share things from within the group outside (that potentially could get you banned)

Be nice and don't slag off members where you don't agree with them (it would have to be pretty bad to get banned - but it has happened - telling someone you hope their baby dies you are going to get banned)

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Sure some facebook admin are arseholes - but thats the same in any walk of life

YABU about this OP - you didn't stick to the rules on this occasion. Surely you noticed that there was no discussion about medication before you posted if you've been on it for a while?

If the rules were there when you joined and you had to agree to them to join the group, then YABU.

I know a lot of FB group admins. They have a lot of people posting things against the clear rules set out and then go "sorry, didn't realise, I won't do it again." Some of them become repeat offenders. The admins choose a one strike and you're out, me exceptions policy because it becomes tiring.

One of bug bears is posts that start "I don't know if this is allowed but..." If you don't know if it's allowed, check the bloody rules you agreed to and see. It's really not hard.

I'm sorry you were kicked out of a group you like but you may have been the straw that broke the camel's back.

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There are lots of groups like that post a great laundry list of rules for you to agree to and honestly expect you to remember all of them

I recently fell foul of that, I joined a group a while ago, more to read than to post and then when I did post I breached one of the (many) rules and was instantly blocked so no chance even to apologise.

I get that being an admin is a voluntary thing and it's annoying when posters break the rules but, honestly, who reads them all everytime before they make a post, they can change at any time so only fair to allow slip ups