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Redundancy emotions

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Magicra84 · 09/06/2020 11:28

It's been a pretty shit year so far, relationship breakdown, I was in hospital, followed by a cancer scare, bullying at work, furlough and told I've been made redundant last week. The redundancy was a shock as my employer guaranteed I would return. I loved the job and worked very very hard to make it into something excellent because it was a shit show when I started.

One of my closest friends at work has been told her job is safe. I'm really pleased for her but at the same time I feel crushed inside. Jobs are very thin on the ground right now, especially in the niche industry I was in. Aibu to feel like this?

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HavingAllOfTheFun · 09/06/2020 11:36

YANBU, I have been made redundant, my last day is Friday.

I hated my job so am feeling slightly relieved but have major anxiety about finding another job as they are obviously very thin on the ground at the moment, there will be lots of competition for jobs and I realistically can't start work till September as am a single parent and schools don't seem to be opening up anytime soon.

I am feeling very low and anxious and not being able to see my friends / go for a drink down the pub to get away from everything is really getting me down.

Sorry I could post anything more positive for you but you're not alone and I'm pinning all my hopes on 'this too shall pass'.

Good luck in the job hunt.

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Magicra84 · 09/06/2020 14:21

@HavingAllOfTheFun I'm so sorry. It's a truly shit situation isn't it? I have every faith we will find something else. This time next year hopefully we'll be in a job we love and settled in life! I believe everything happens for a reason but whatever that reason is right now I don't have a clue but it's a shit feeling! Good luck to you too.

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Betty98 · 09/06/2020 14:24

I’m so sorry to both of you, such an awful set of circumstances. DH was made redundant back in April and we’ve agreed to phase our panic based on how far our savings can take us. That way he can “enjoy” being at home. If that’s an option for you then I’d recommend trying it out. Its done wonders for our mental health.

AnnaBanana333 · 09/06/2020 14:30

I'm so sorry. I was made redundant a few years ago and even though it was a relief (I hated that job) it was also hurtful and dented my confidence. It's never nice to be told you aren't wanted any more, even when it's business reasons and nothing to do you with you personally.

Try to remember it's the role that has been made redundant, not you, and that thousands and thousands are going to be in the same boat because of the pandemic. Nothing about this is a reflection on you or your worth. In another kind of global crisis your job might have been 100% safe; it's just a matter of luck whether corona has been good, bad, or neutral for us all in our roles.

If it helps, my redundancy had a happy ending. When I was in the job my confidence was too low to interview for a new position, even though I was miserable. Once I was made redundant and started looking, I found a new job and I'm still there, very happy, 2.5 years later. It might take a little longer in the current climate but one day you will look back and be thankful you got out of that horrible place where you were bullied.

hammeringinmyhead · 09/06/2020 14:35

YANBU. My company of 12 years closed in March and I've been waiting for my notice pay, so not looked too hard, but 12 weeks on there is very little out there. The longer I'm at home with a toddler, the less confident I feel.

The company has been bought out and my old boss has been taken on as part of a tiny team. I am pleased for him but also gutted that I'm over here filling in forms and waiting for calls like a mug.

PiggyPokkyFool · 09/06/2020 14:42

I feel sad for you @Magicra84 - have you been there long? Will you get a decent redundancy pay? It is horrible when you put so much of yourself into a job and get to really enjoy it and then it is gone

Hingeandbracket · 09/06/2020 15:03

YANBU plenty of people (me included) getting shafted in all this. I have a list of companies/people I will never work with again because of the shitty way they behaved when the chips were down.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 09/06/2020 15:25

I got told yesterday that my employers where closing one of their sites down (the one I work in). We've just started the 45 day consultation procedure as there are 250 of us at risk. They have offered to redeploy up to 50 of us to another site but it's a long commute by car (1 1/2 hours) and not served by public transport from where I live . Other people live closer so they'll get 1st pick. I'm sad, scared and angry all at the same time, as mine is the only income at the moment as OH was made redundant just before lock down. Finding employment (with his added bonus of having epilepsy), for him, has also been hard. For now all we can do is fire off application forms and hope for the best. Not much more we can do to be honest.

Teacaketotty · 09/06/2020 15:40

I’m so sorry.

I was made redundant a few months ago on maternity leave and honestly it’s a horrible feeling. However you figure it out, you survive and it will be okay.

Still job hunting but fingers crossed for all of us looking right now.

Z0rr0 · 09/06/2020 15:46

I got made redundant 18 months ago and only just this year feel better about it. I found it a huge blow to my confidence. So YANBU.
Despite my own wording (!) try to remember it's the post that's been made redundant, not you.
Did they have adequate reasons for the redundo? There are very strict rules they have to meet. You can't just lay people off without criteria. Also, if there's some sort of restructuring where all or elements of your post will exist elsewhere there probably needs to be some sort of consultation first, and of course they have to offer you any role they are creating that you could reasonably perform. If not then have a look at ACAS and whether you're within your rights to appeal / threaten tribunal.

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Magicra84 · 10/06/2020 13:14

Oh I'm so sorry for all of us 😢 today is the first day I've woken up in fighter mode. Ready to face the world again and get a new job, new future. Good luck to everyone who has been made redundant

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Z0rr0 · 10/06/2020 17:22

Good for you. Don't let the bastards grind you down!

Candyapple49 · 10/06/2020 17:31

I am so sorry . This happened to me in February . I am a teacher and the school decided to drop my subject for financial reasons . I loved that job, the kids , my room , my colleagues .
It’s a horrible and scary feeling and you feel so disposable , despite having given so much of your life . Like you I was told that I am an excellent teacher so they would always keep the subject . Change of Head and that’s the end of me .
It’s hard , but life has a funny way of turning around . My subject is “rare” but I actually found 4 jobs to apply for within a few months and I start my new job in Sept .

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