Have you lost any friends during lockdown?

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lost as in faded away, not any tragedies. One of mine was on thin ice and I think its fallen into the ice now. Lives very nearby, has had not contact at all. Me doing all the running.

Yes, one friend. Don’t know how I feel about it. They have MH issues that have got worse in lockdown.

I sensed our friendship had changed last September but it limped along. Corona has killed it properly.
Shame because I enjoyed her company. I don't need someone to be the ultimate friend but when she wasn't interested in my travelling, my research or my health, I got bored if being her listening friend

It is about your needs, OP. If this is a friendship you value, why not accept your friend’s desire for silence/to be out of contact at the moment, rather than obsessive about what, in your view, she owes you?

Nobody owes any body anything. I am not obsessing, I am reconsidering.

Help comes from unexpected places.

I accept, I cease to pursue, I cease to care. So be it.

I've probably lost a few borderline racist Facebook friends with my post on Baden - Powell today.... basically I said I'd done some research, found out he was a fan of Hitler among other nasty things, I hate Nazis so they can take the statue down as far as I'm concerned.

Then realised at least 3 friends (including one whose wedding I went to) had written posts in support of the statue!! Oops.

In fact the whole BLM thing has made me see some people for what they are.

No...didn’t have many to loose though. So look on the upside....at least you had one to loose :)

Yup closest friend has gone really odd over the last month or so and then we had a falling out over something I consider both small and big.

I asked for help with something very small that would have literally taken 3mins of her time and she gave me a bunch of really bad (and clearly untrue) reasons for not helping.
I have no one else to ask for help so this really upset me on top of the obvious lie as to why she wouldn't. I would have helped her, I have helped her a lot in the past so I'm a little angry that it's not a two way street.

Tried to get in contact after 2 weeks radio silence and she's still being weird. I'm really sad about it because it was a very long standing friendship and there is clearly something I've missed that has happened between us.

I'm not good at making friends and she was really my only proper one, now I don't really have anyone to talk to at all and I miss her.

Yes, I have. Pre lockdown I had been aware I had been the one always contacting her and had thought for a while of leaving it and seeing if she contacted me. When all this started I checked in on her to make sure she was ok. Haven’t contacted her since and she hasn’t contacted me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dizzy wiz I lost 3 friends that way that last year because I was aware I was putting in way more to relationships than I was getting back.

Literally no contact from 1 Of them and limited from the other 2. I feel kind of stupid that they obviously were tying to distance themselves and I was constantly contacting them to arrange things.

Never mind I can focus on other relationships now

Yes, a couple of friends. When lockdown started they were both extremely unpleasant about how other people were reacting. I’ve distanced myself from them both.