Dog sleeping on our bed or not?

[DangerCake]

No way, not ever, YANBU
oh, little doggie on bed, look at her eyes, hoe can you be so heartless, YABU

DH wants the six month old puppy on the bed at night. I think she snores, farts, it’s unhygienic and she’s got her own bed. Don’t mind a puppy cuddle in the morning....but not all night.

[hiredandsqueak]

Love our dog but she isn't allowed upstairs. She snores like a pig and farts a lot there is no way she is getting near my bed. She has her own cushion on the sofa and sleeps there ignoring the lovely comfortable dog bed that is merely an ornament.

[Chloemol]

Mine sleeps with me when at home. If we go away she sleeps in an indoor kennel at their house. If I go out she goes in an indoor kennel, so she knows it’s bedtime and makes no noise

There’s no problem , she’s a hot water bottle in the winter and to those saying it’s unhygenic, the bedding gets washed so yah boo ducks to you

[Tableclothing]

I wonder if the people who make completely fallacious analogies are at all aware of the basics of human biology, zoology and cross species viral transmission.

OK, scrap that, I am not really wondering, I know the answer already.

You got me. My study of biology did indeed end at GCSE level. I'm curious to understand why it is so unlikely that cross species transmission could occur if people actually have dogs in their beds every night though. I did Google it and the first hit was from the NIH saying that:

Dogs are a major reservoir for zoonotic infections. Dogs transmit several viral and bacterial diseases to humans. Zoonotic diseases can be transmitted to human by infected saliva, aerosols, contaminated urine or feces and direct contact with the dog.

So if you can explain different I'm all ears. Or eyes, whatever.

[SupergirlPants]

Growing up, the family dogs always slept with one of us humans, it was our norm, but we're quite a doggish family. So I always knew when I got a dog of my own, it would be a bed dog. In fact it was super helpful in toilet training him as a pup cos I was super aware of his movements - whenever he stirred in the night, I whipped him out to the garden to toilet. I slept in onesies with my boots by my bad for 5 weeks until he was fully trained, and we haven't looked back.... He's always the last thing I see when I go to sleep and the first thing I see when I wake up, which is a pure delight.

Have to say though, he's only little at 7kgs, doesn't shed & is pure white so I can spot any muck on him before he makes it to the bedroom (in which case he gets a clean). If I had a big, slobbery, shedding What-A-Mess dog I might feel differently!

[tinkywinkyshandbag]

Mine sleeps in a little bed right at the side of our double bed. He loves it and takes himself off to bed at night. I like having him
close by and his blanket is regularly washed so it doesn't smell doggy in our room. In the morning if we're having a cuppa he's allowed in for a cuddle and it's lovely but when I say "go to bed" he knows what that means. Maybe that would be a compromise?

[iwilltaketwoplease]

YANBU!

[BeeB29]

Our dog isn’t allowed in bed. She’s not really allowed upstairs either. It’s the compete opposite to what I’ve been brought up with. Always had cats and dogs growing up and they were allowed everywhere as my mum wanted, even lying on clean bedding in the airing cupboard but when I got my own place and got a dog it stays downstairs. She sheds like crazy so the upstairs is one place I don’t have to worry about hair - although it does manage to get up there.

She actually loves her little cosy bed downstairs. Sometimes she sleeps on the sofa too which I don’t mind. She’s so used to sleeping downstairs she never comes up looking for us! She loves snuggling on her own through the night.

[My0My]

9 year old child attacked by a dog in a caravan. Just in the news. It’s just not safe or hygienic.

[My0My]

Attacked and killed by the way!

[vanillandhoney]

@My0My

9 year old child attacked by a dog in a caravan. Just in the news. It’s just not safe or hygienic.

Children are also attacked and killed by dogs in the living room, in gardens and out in public. Maybe we should just ban dogs. And cars, because they're dangerous too. And water, in case people drown!

[AriettyHomily]

Mine was never allowed, then we gave in and it was lovely. He's blind now so we can't risk him roaming around in the middle of the night and falling down the stairs so he's back in his bed downstairs. Doesn't stop him from trying though!

[Hillocrew]

Mine sleep in their crates mostly but come up in the mornings after DH lets them out for a pee. Love my morning cuddles with them but my sleep gets disturbed if they're in bed all night with me.

[SomewhereInbetween1]

We've got two dogs, our eldest likes to sleep on the bed and our youngest prefers her own bed. Personally I like having them both nearby and it's not caused behaviour issues or anything.

[whisht]

When ddog arrived to us first I was determined to avoid this, but probably as she was a rescue it lasted all of a hour before we relented. She mainly hops up and down off my bed during the night. I have her trained to sleep at the foot of the bed on a blanket, which I change every couple of nights. She has her own bed on the bedroom floor which she ignores and spends most of the night on the floor of the bedroom and short periods on the foot of the bed. She doesnt do well on her own generally anyway and I just couldnt put her through it. Love the wake up nose in my face in the morning anyway!

[zingally]

Urgh, no.

Love my dog dearly (a big goofy whippet), but wouldn't want him in the bed with us. He's always slept downstairs, ever since we got him.

[My0My]

No - not ban dogs. Just keep them under control! That doesn’t involve sleeping with them!

[vanillandhoney]

@My0My

No - not ban dogs. Just keep them under control! That doesn’t involve sleeping with them!

According to who?

[GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER]

Ours (RIP) started off as a pup sleeping in the kitchen, but later migrated to our room, supposedly sleeping on the floor, but often used to join us on the duvet later.
We have a nice big bed so we never minded. I can’t, and never could, be arsed to fuss very much about germs/hygiene. In over 14 years it never gave any of us the slightest problem.
When she got old and was unable to jump up, I would help her.
I miss her. 🙁

On weekend mornings we’d often have the cat on the bed, too, not to mention dds.

[lifestooshort123]

Those of you who said yes to dog sleeping on your bed - out of interest, how did you vote on the 'grim carpets' thread?

[Rosebel]

Not at night. Our cat sneaks in our room or the kids for a cuddle in the morning (or sits outside the door crying until you let him in) but at night no. I'd say the same for a dog.

[muckandnettles]

I absolutely love the idea of a dog in the bed as I adore my puppy and he would be so snuggly and cute, but I will not ever do it because he will stink the place up and make it all hairy. He has a lot of house space as it is, so no. As a couple you have to agree on this one, otherwise it will be done by stealth.

[SurreyHillsGirl]

We went from:

Puppies in the kitchen (siblings - in their own warm and snuggly crates - classical music playing and kept an eye on them with the Furbo camera) - both pups v happy

to

5 months old - in crates in our room - both dogs v happy

to

6 months old - lovely in laws came to stay to look after the dogs while we go on holiday

one of the dogs starts crying... they NEVER do this with us....in laws take pity and take into their bed

When we got back the dogs refused their crates and have now taken up squatters' rights of our bed. It's a nightmare! We have a super king size but they love to spread out and take up loads of room and sometimes I have to get up and go in the spare room as I wake up to find myself hanging out of the bed!! In the morning they wake me up by licking my mouth

[NeutrinoWrangler]

If both people are okay with it, that's fine, but it had to be both.

Our dogs don't fart or stink, but they do move around and take room by at the foot of the bed, so we've decided not to have them in our bed while we sleep to preserve our quality of rest. They come lie on the bed with us for a while as we unwind, though, which is a highlight of their day.

[40somethingJBJ]

It’s a no from me. I’ve never had dogs in the bedroom or on furniture, apart from when they’re very tiny puppies when I’ll have their beds next to mine for a few weeks whilst housetraining, but after that, it’s downstairs. I hate sitting on the sofa or bed and getting covered in dog hair.

[violetbunny]

As someone who wakes up every morning sandwiched between two cats, YABU.