To be bored with life

[Poptart4]

Maybe it's the lockdown or maybe it's a mid life crisis. I'm a soon to be 37yr old mother of 4 and I'm thoroughly bored with life.

I love my kids, my job, my house and my partner. I count my blessings every day and take nothing for granted but still....

....nothing remotely exciting ever happens.

I vividly remember being in my teens/twenties laughing at people having mid life crisis' but now I understand them. Not that I'm about to have an affair or buy a red sports car. But I cant help sometimes thinking "is this it??"

Anyone else in their late 30's/40's feel this way? Any suggestions on how to spice up my life?

This is me OP
Dh was made redundant and we are back where we were this time last year when he was also out of work
It's depressing
Was fantasising about moving abroad but think we won't have eligible emigration points and not sure I would like it
Massively feeling like "is this really it?" on lots of levels
Also have 4 dc (not by design have twins as dc3/4) so money is always going to be tight.
Also the poster talking about weaning has made me want wotsits 😂

YANBU. Being a mother is full of boredom and drudgery. Your freedom is completely curtailed. It’s why many women are choosing not to have children.

yeah u just need to spice up your sex life a little.... try pegging

I find the lack of being able to go somewhere the hardest. If only my gym would open up so I could go swimming and do other exercise. And no exercising at him isnt the same.

Your whole world has narrowed down to basically your house it would drive anyone up the wall. Go for a walk I'm told a walk to where? It's boring me it wasnt something I enjoyed doing before covid let alone in it.

I don't know about pegging necessarily but I think Freud would agree with passion4cats22 's general thrust. He considered the libido to be an essential general life force/mojo thing

@poptart4 you're right and prior to Lockdown I was a busy bee... hardly indoors. Lockdown has made me think of how my life has turned out so far...

I will try and remember your words and stay positive through these difficult times.
Thanks

I think it's alot to do with goals and working towards things. Covid has definitely affected this! When I look back to my 20s I was doing things like training for a half marathon, planning holiday to oz, career change, trying something new in London every weekend, travelling to friends around uk...so not all things I can't necessarily do now...just alot harder with kids! I've decided to set myself a goal of getting back into writing.

I'm tired of working our arses off and having no money constantly worrying about the bills, unable to have holidays. It this it until we pay the mortgage off at 78? Then struggle as we have no pension.
Not an attractive prospect.