Racist friend - advice needed

[LittleMermaidRose]

I'm not sure if I've posted this in the right section but I could really use some advice in regards to my friend.
Just for reference, we communicate mostly through messenger.

Whenever she is telling me a story she always refers to the person's race (eg - my co-worker Sarah, who's black, is getting married next week. My black neighbours are having a baby) - she never comments on anyone being white though (which we both are)
I'm ashamed to admit that I haven't called her out on it before as I always thought it was going to be relevant to the story somehow, but it never is.

Anyway, last night she told me about an argument her work team had over a customer. Once again it was "Sarah, who's black, said this.. then Michelle said this.. she's black too.." and so on.

This time I asked her what the relevance was to them being black - her response being that she thought they were all siding with their "own kind".

I don't know what to say next. I'm really shocked. She told me a racist joke a while ago that her uncle had told her. I explained to her that it was racist and I just assumed that she hadn't realised that at the time - I didn't want to think the worse.

I now feel like I've been really naive, any advice on what to do/say would be appreciated. I'm not good with confrontation at all.

This time I asked her what the relevance was to them being black - her response being that she thought they were all siding with their "own kind".

You could say you find her viewpoint uncomfortable as you do not feel the same way. You could say you find her viewpoint racist and "othering". Or you could say nothing, and block her. You don't HAVE to be her friend if you are unhappy with the friendship.

I would say something like, "look, I'm sorry because I haven't mentioned this before but I really don't think it's appropriate when you refer to people's race that way" and then see what she says

implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/selectatouchtest.html

She could try this test?

I would pull her up on this again the next time she does it. If she continues then i would have a think about my friendship.

Desiree Burch made an excellent point on The Last Leg last night. Don't block or unfriend, question. How many times has she said my white friend Rachel is getting married next week or my white neighbours have just had a baby?

I'd pull her up on it and say the way she describes people and makes assumptions is racist. If she refuses to accept it them tell her you aren't going to stay friends with a racist.