Anyone ever drunk text?

[haveathingfortea]

Feeling rotten this morning.
I drunk texted my boyfriend when he really wanted to be left alone. I'm mortified.
He has read it but never replied
I text that I missed him.

If he is annoyed by that then is he worth your time?

I don't think he would be annoyed. He is consumed by sad stuff at the moment. I am
Embarrassed but I know that if I had received from him I would have appreciated it but not necessarily replied. Im still cringing though.

Did you have a post recently where your bf had asked from space for you and you agreed not to contact him or am i thinking of someone else?

The alcohol from last night will make your anxiety about texting him worse

I have done before but not for a long time. I texted my ex, which is worse!

I don't think drunk texting your boyfriend should be a big issue? Most people would just find it funny. Unless there is more to the story and you're going through a difficult patch.

He is going through a bad time so has been distant and respectfully asked for time out which I respected ... until last night. I simply said that I missed him. It's a new relationship too.

The bad time has nothing to do with us as a couple.His own stuff.

If you’re in a relationship you shouldn’t feel “mortified” for having texted him even if he wanted to be left alone. As long as you weren’t hassling of offensive.

It’s not like you texted your child’s teacher saying you wanted to have sex with them. Let’s keep it in perspective.

If he asked to be left alone I can see it might be mildly irritating but hardly a huge problem.
He could have just ignored you.

Does he make you feel that everything has to be on his terms? He sounds a bit controlling if you feel like this over having sent him a text.

Not controlling at all but I am
Very sensitive to what he is experiencing at the moment and I think he is well within his rights to ask for space.Im just a little embarrassed as it is a new relationship and Ive read on here many times how men and women can get quite irritated by that and see it as a neediness that they can't handle. Maybe I'm full of anxiety after the booze.

I have form for this OP. When was the last time you’d texted him before last night? If you’d left him alone for a week for example, then texted a simple ‘I miss you’ last night I think that’s OK.

Two nights before ! I replied to his text after he was explaining his need for requesting some timeout and told him that I respected his wishes etc
I know it's not a bad text but I just feel unsettled now.

OP I totally understand and I think respecting boundaries is important. But if it was one single respectful and kind text I think, in the nicest possible way, that you are overthinking.

Don’t send any more texts and leave him for now but don’t feel you have crossed a line. If he’s a decent guy he will understand.

Thank you. He is a decent sort.

A new relationship and he wants time out already?

What you did was really not bad in any way, you were hardly hassling him. If this is a new relationship are you sure you want it to be this hard work so early on?

Sounds like you sent a nice text. If he is in a bad place he would have appreciated it, but not able to respond. Don’t take it personally. What you did was a nice thing and I’m sure made him feel better

How new is the relationship OP?

Try not to worry and just leave it at that until he contacts you.

Porridge is supposed to be good for post-alcohol anxiety!

Did your text literally just say that you miss him or did you follow it up with a paragraph that outlined why you miss him? No judgement here - just asking because that’s what I’ve done in the past

The fear after drinking is horrendous. Be kind to yourself, and try not to worry about it. What’s done is done, and if he’s offended by it then maybe he’s not right for you 🤷🏻‍♀️

Can you delete it if he hasn't read it?

I think it sounds like hard work for a new relationship.

It's a new relationship and he has asked to be left alone? You send a nice text which is ignored, leaving you feeling anxious.
It sounds like he doesn't actually want to be with you. In fact he sounds like he is not in a place to be with anyone.
So many issues early on is a very bad sign. Move in.

Move on, not in!

Thanks.
I've slept d feel better..a bit.
You are right, if he is offended it says little for him.
It was a kind simple text .. no explanations

Years ago, when sent texts didn't save (and I had zero recollection) I text a close friend telling him I loved him.

He looked a little bit crushed when I said I had no idea what he was on about because I didn't have those feelings for him.

I've sent some horrifically embarrassing drunk texts in my time. 'I miss you' is nothing, especially to your actual boyfriend!