To ask how I'm going to do this?

[TenLun89]

Hi,

I would appreciate all honesty, as brutal as it might be.

I have an 8mo old

Starting uni in sept, course is full time and it's nursing

I'm 4 weeks pregnant (unplanned, we were infertile and had LOTS of ivf to have our 8mo old.)

Husband earns 34k

I was going to live off 16k to fund uni (loans, bursary)

We can live off DH wage alone, we have low mortgage repayments and minimal outgoings but this would never in a billion years cover childcare.

I suggested living off his wage and using my uni funds for childcare, is that doable?

My questions:

How the he'll do l do this?????

Has anyone done this before? Any advice at all is really, really appreciated

I focused so hard on ivf and getting pregnant, that's when I had my baby I found the whole thing really challenging. I've just only starting feeling confident and really enjoying it and then to find out I'm pregnant naturally, I feel confused, angry, elated. Everything really.

DH has no idea what to do, genuinely fainted when he found out I was pregnant.

Also, two under two? Does anyone have any positive stories?

Don't defer.
Loads and I mean loads of nursing students take mat leave during university so you can take the leave you need for baby number 2.
University is very experienced in supporting women who return to university following mat leave too.
Childcare - goodluck. Financially you should be able to get some support whilst you're a student. Physically, you're looking for someone who you can drop your child off to before your twelve hour placement, which can be an hour away sometimes.
Looking for someone who is willing to take your child from 06:00 sometimes until your DH can collect is almost impossible.
If your DH isn't interested in doing their fair share of childcare, (not saying he isn't!) Then you're looking for someone who will have your child until you finish your twelve hour day placement, these sometimes don't finish until late at night, 10/11pm etc.
Single parents training to be nurses have an absolutely horrendous time trying to juggle this both physically and emotionally.

Financially, depending on lifestyle and geography, it's doable. I trained in health care, but luckily got a bursary. Dh earns £8k. Between his income, £8 bursary and £8k tax credits we were fine. We all got extra curricular activities for kids as birthday presents. Now paying tax, no discounts on council tax etc and as a nqb5 we're not much better off so it's really good practice. Childcare might be your killer though. I waited until last dc started reception and my bursary covered after school and breakfast club fees when we needed them.

I used to be a university supervisor
I would probably defer for a year, as you'dhhave to miss at least a few weeks of teaching.
Then look into whether the university has a campus nursery - these are often very good and obviously nearby, and may have discounted rates for students. They might have long waiting lists so register now if that's a possibility.
Also look into whether they offer any support for student parents. There might be grants etc you can apply for. The uni should have a Web page about financial assistance.

I would enjoy the time when the babies are small without worrying about the degree personally. But only you know what's best for you x

Can u defer ur nursing degree for a year? Just with being pregnant and then new baby you will need to be off during the course so may be better to put off starting it until the following year?

I had 2 under 2! Double buggy and a big changing bag you be grand!
Honestly it's doable and they will be great company for each other growing up x

Postpone.

Or at least check out the effects of maternity on your course. You've got the issues of pregnancy and placements, plus if you miss a couple of months of teaching, those won't be taught again - taking a year out might be more feasible, as you'd come in where you left off, but less might mean you have to catch up every week you miss - so effectively studying rather more than full-time with two under-twos.

You said something about having a current job which would give you maternity pay, so it seems more sensible to stay in that, have the maternity pay, enjoy some time with your little ones, then start the nursing course the next September.

Just re read the thread. God OP don't leave your job if you'll get maternity pay! Get this year over and then do your nursing the following September, far less stressful and you'll have a great routine going with the wee ones by next September.