But there is still a virus around isnt there?

[98Charlotte]

My partners said some of his family are staying with us over babies 1st birthday.
Staying in our flat, has this virus gone or something?
I have social anxiety as it is at the moment and now hes told people I barely know they can stay with us, I feel uncomfortable with it, might be better if we werent in the current situation.

I dont want them staying with us at the moment with the virus going on, they could easily have it and bring it to us or we could give it to them if we have it.

AIBU for not wanting them to stay at the moment?
What would everyone do?

I'd suggest you tell your partner to check the law on having people staying overnight.

Even in normal circumstances I think your DP should ask you first!

No they arent allowed to come and stay with you. They arent supposed to even be in the house never mind stay over

No definitely no overnight guests!

I have a couple of friends who are showing similar levels of selfishness/stupidity, OP - this must be very frustrating for you. Show him the guidelines and give him a stern talking to:

www.gov.uk/government/publications/staying-alert-and-safe-social-distancing/staying-alert-and-safe-social-distancing

Are you in England? Tell your partner that legally you can only see people from other households outdoors. They can't come into your house. They certainly can't stay the night.

It’s not actually “law” you can’t have people staying over, it’s a guideline.

Op if you don’t want it, tell him, for me it would be fine but I don’t have social anxiety and I assume neither does your husband.

Explain your mental, health issues and you’re worried about Covid and say you don’t want them there.

@Bluntness100, I thought they had changed the Law so you can't have anyone stay, it changed on June 1st.

@Bluntness100 think it is law now how well it will be enforced is another question

I've tried saying who knows how many times that 1 I'm not comfortable with people I barely know staying when we dont have space and 2 there is a virus going round, but it just starts an argument every time. Wonder what the social worker will think of it if or when she finds out.

We are in England.

Definitely didnt get asked first, found out most of the info I have from overhearing what hes been saying, that was the least I could have asked for really

He also said that because he pays most of the bills he gets to make the decision on if people stay or not.

Cant believe they're all perfectly happy risking the health of a 1 year old as well as themselves.

So he’s willing to risk you or your child catching the virus, in order to play Lord Bountiful? That’s very nice of him. Not to you of course. Obviously your feelings and opinion doesn’t count. Law or not, it’s a completely stupid thing to do and I don’t understand why you haven’t said no.

Simple, I would be letting them done, and going to stay elsewhere myself, permanently

He also said that because he pays most of the bills he gets to make the decision on if people stay or not.

I’d tell him that in that case they’re welcome to stay, but you and your baby will be going to stay with your mum, sister, whoever, until after they’ve left. Actually, I’d be packing my bags for good, the arrogant bastard.

Natural selection springs to mind

Struggling it’s not law. They don’t change the law every time they change something in lock down, it’s a guideline. Police can’t come into your house and check who is staying there.

I have said no probably about 50 times but my opinion clearly doesn't count

If one person is coming down on the day of her birthday I dont see what the other 3 can't get a lift down that day instead of him going up to get them to come back the day before and stay over
Maybe its just me thinking stupidly but surely 1 trip there and another 1 back is better than 2 or 3 there and 2 or 3 back

Why is there a social worker?

because he pays most of the bills he gets to make the decision on if people stay or not

Are you happy living like that? That isn’t a partnership.

I have tried saying that we'll go stay with my parents if they're going to be staying here and get told that I'm the one not letting them see her and refusing them time with her

You have a partner problem. He clearly doesn't give a shit about your feelings. Are you financially dependent on him while unmarried?

BBC link www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52880399 From the article:

It is now a crime to stay at someone else's home overnight, or to hold gatherings of two or more people indoors or more than six people outdoors, under new legislation.

Officers can fine rule-breakers and arrest them if they do not co-operate.

I believe it was an amendment to existing legislation rather than a new law.

I’d mention it to your social worker. They can support you to tell him no (and no, not do it for you....) because if they did find out, and you didn’t tell them, that wouldn’t look great. Especially visiting other vulnerable families where they could then unknowingly pass it on from your little party.

Social worker because of police involvement a couple of months ago and are supposed to be helping me with the social situation problems
I have been thinking of leaving him

I have a job but they cut my hours from over 16 down to 8 at the beginning of the year, been furloughed as well
Then the child benefit and universal credit gets paid into my account so he cant access it, but with his wages isnt a lot I get

Struggling it’s not law. They don’t change the law every time they change something in lock down, it’s a guideline. Police can’t come into your house and check who is staying there.

I don't think this is right. See new reg 6 on page 3 of the statutory instrument here www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2020/558/pdfs/uksi_20200558_en.pdf

Struggling it’s not law. They don’t change the law every time they change something in lock down, it’s a guideline. Police can’t come into your house and check who is staying there.

As of 1st June -
Technically, having someone outside of your household in your house is currently against the law
Can you stay overnight at someone’s house?
No, under current regulations you can’t stay the night at someone’s house – and this also applies to staying overnight in second homes or anywhere other than your primary residence.
If you are found to be in somebody else’s property the police cannot force you to leave, although they still have the powers to fine and arrest people.