AIBU people staring into my house

[Wheredidallmytreesgo]

Having the front garden wall redone. Living room at the front of the house, exposed. Fairly sizeable driveway but still, several times a day (and worse, evening when I’ve got my slobs on and stuffing my face with snacks 😁), people stop outside my house, gawping and pointing at the work being done and shamelessly staring into my living room/at me. For actually what’s a very uncomfortable amount of time.

AIBU? I feel like I’m in a zoo. Don’t people realise that this is quite rude?!

Any ideas of how to respond? I usually duck and hide but this evening tried just hard staring at one couple, as they were really pointing and discussing the house/looking straight at me. Didn’t seem to do anything though. Maybe walking around naked should scare them off.

PS, we don’t have any curtains because it’s a great window with a window seat, and there was/will be a nice high wall so this problem won’t last forever. But just to say we can’t draw the curtains 😭

[IntermittentParps]

Where, and PeppaisaBitch. For heaven's sake, read the thread, people!

How about a free-standing screen? A paperJapanese-type thing maybe? Then when it's not needed for the window any more you've still got it to partition off one room from another or parts of the room or all the mess in the alcove like I use mine for

[DNAwrangler]

Go and stand where the people are, in the evening and have your DH sit where you usually are.

Can you even see your DH? Anything else of interest?!

[Itsnotalwaysme]

I have to admit, a window across from my flat reflects onto my front door, so if my buzzer goes and I'm not expecting anyone/ or if I am specifically waiting on someone my eyes do not leave the window.

It was a storage room for an office but has been converted into flats so I'm worried about when new people move in they will hate me

[strugglingwithdeciding]

Think that's why blinds and net curtains were invented

[Windyatthebeach]

Make some A4 signs.
Have some fun here..
'hey you- buggar off'
'smile you are on cctv'
'boo!'
'do you want a photo?'

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[NameChange84]

YADNBU

We aren’t having any work done but live on a main road. People make a real point of stopping and staring in through the main windows these days. It’s like a people zoo.

We can’t sit in the garden due to being in the Shielding category and not able to maintain an adequate amount of distance as the garden is at the front of the house and we aren’t allowed to put a high wall/fencing up (it wouldn’t be in keeping with the period of the house and neighbourhood). Life would a
be more miserable and claustrophobic than it already is if we had to sit with our living room curtains shut all day.

I’ve very pointedly stared back at some of the starts and they just grin inanely like they don’t care it’s an invasion of privacy.

Was I the only one who was taught “it’s rude to stare” growing up.

[PanamaPattie]

As pp have said, Windolene works a treat and you will have clean windows when you wash it off.

[Wheredidallmytreesgo]

@DNAwrangler

Very good idea will test this out this evening

@IntermittentParps

Also great idea with the screen! Much less permanent than blinds etc or even privacy film which isn’t always easy to get off

@Zeusthemoose

Glad someone else understands 😂 maybe she just wanted to be friends! 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Laaalaaaa]

Flip them the bird? 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Wheredidallmytreesgo]

@PanamaPattie

Isn’t windolene just a clear spray?!

@NameChange84

Yes!!! I was taught it’s rude to stare. I think a cursory glance walking past is fine, but standing and stopping/pointing etc is too much.

@Windyatthebeach

Maybe just a classical “if you can read this sign kindly stop fucking staring at my house” ?

[Wheredidallmytreesgo]

@Bluntness100

I do think mostly it’s a put up and shut up, as you say. But wanted to have a moan/see if other people think it’s ok to stare in at houses

[Ravenclawgirl]

Get temporary blinds or one-way window film, both available from amazon.

[Legoandloldolls]

Stick on plastic frosting over the bottom part of the window? That's what I have got over the bottom 1/4 of mine. We have a long front garden ( well a car length at least) but I was worried when BF so put it up. Didnt take it down when dd got a bit older either as it's a good security measure. But in the meantime a Bush has grown in between the path and the front door so you have to walk into the garden, past a tree and a Bush to nose in.

My neighbours dont have anything up so better options either side to check out

[Catsrus]

just tape some sheets of newspaper up until the wall is finished

[starfishmummy]

Buy curtains or blinds. Roman blinds seem v It will still be a nice big window with a window seat but you will be able to have privacy when you want it.

A few houses in my street have window seats for their dogs in their bay windows and have roman blinds which are pull up well out of the way of the seat.

[Wheredidallmytreesgo]

I don’t want to buy curtains or blinds because we don’t need them when the wall is up/not going to put up something permanent on the wall that I will never use/don’t want.

Maybe this is a use for all of DH’s old movie posters he insisted on keeping but is never going to be able to put up in the house because we are not 12 anymore 😬

[cheesyrats]

Just put some net curtains up and be done with it. That's what they're for.

[Wheredidallmytreesgo]

@Catsrus

The pressure there is making sure I use the “correct”
Newspaper for the area

[Andylion]

Maybe just a classical “if you can read this sign kindly stop fucking staring at my house” ?

What if they can't read the sign and come closer to see what it says?

[Wheredidallmytreesgo]

@Andylion

Maybe a smaller sign underneath that saying “it wasn’t a fucking invitation, now sod off my property before I get the water pistols out”

[Wheredidallmytreesgo]

@cheesyrats

Im a donkey on the Edge; I can’t take any more comments about curtains

[Batshittery]

@PeppaisaBitch

I once looked through a window and saw someone watching babestation. Shut your curtains.

PMSL 😂

[CuppaZa]

I’d honestly flash my boobs.

[CaptainButtock]

How about printing an A4 sized sign (so they have to really peer at it to read) with 'Stop being so bloody nosy'.

[CaptainButtock]

Oh right... I was beaten to it

Still, great minds and all that!