Hi there, posting here for a wide perspective on this. I'll try and make this as straight forward as possible!
I have an old school friend who lives about 4 hours from me, we would usually meet up 2-3 times a year and also message regularly on WhatsApp.
Our WhatsApp conversation is basically a rolling chat where we might message a couple of times a day, and then pick up where we left off a week later.
Recently she has fallen off the radar and I'm starting to get a bit concerned - mostly that she's not coping in Lockdown and that her head is going west and am not sure what to do or even if I'm being over dramatic and worrying over nothing.
Basic timeline is here for clarity
8/5 - she messages me as normal and asks for my new address for my birthday card.
8/5 - I reply.
She then doesn't reply or look at the message
20/5 - I message again asking how she is and general chit chat
She looks at the message but no reply
She sends me a message saying Happy Birthday on my birthday but no reply to the previous two messages.
1/6 - I ring her, no reply and leave a message
3/6 - I ring her, no reply and leave a message.
She did send me a Birthday card, in which she had written a very emotive message about missing me.
My boyfriend thinks she probably just feels a bit down and that I should leave her to get some space and if she wants to speak to me then she can. My mother on the other hand thinks I should keep trying to make sure she's coping OK.
And thoughts would be much appreciated!