AIBU to ask if there is any pain you have experienced..

[ChocolateQuiltedShitPig]

That is worse than childbirth?

Just trying to ease my anxieties over giving birth, due this week!

I hate the unknown and not having a client what level of pain to expect. I know every labour is different but I cant sleep and thought I'd ask!

[ParkheadParadise]

Grief. I couldn't describe the physical pain I felt. The only thing I was grateful for was I gave birth during this time. I was so wrapped up in my grief I found my labour easy.

Dental pain

[ExShield]

Parkhead Paradise that’s a very moving post. I hope you’ve found peace and comfort now. X x

[MistyIsland]

Gallbladder and dental abscess both a million times worse than giving birth.

[loubieloo4]

Heartbreak, finding out dh (39) is dying, I can't even begin to imagine when it happens 😢

paralytic ileus (intestines/bowel stopped working)

[Zoflorabore]

Oh I’m so sorry loubieloo4 that is just utterly cruel. I hope you have lots of support

[m00rfarm]

Gallstones

[ShastaBeast]

Sinusitis and a UTI both while pregnant. But first baby was back to back so that was very painful in a bad way - like someone shoving a bowling ball up my ass. I had an epidural early and really recommend them, they are fabulous. Second wasn’t back to back and it wasn’t that bad, no pain relief. It’s was more unappealing due to how it felt when pushing than the pain.

Get on all fours and help manoeuvre baby so you avoid a back to back labour. It’s very painful and can slow things down leading to induction and possibly intervention up to C section.

[Zoflorabore]

My worst pain is happening right now. I’ve had 2 back to back labours, a botched episiotomy with number one and a clitoral tear with number two.

I’ve also had a ruptured appendix, trigeminal neuralgia and I have the chronic pin condition, fibromyalgia so I’m used to a bit of pain

I woke up at 2am yesterday and my knee was in severe agony, feels warm, hugely swollen and the pain is off the bloody scale.
I’m struggling to walk and feel like it’s going to snap if I put weight on it.
I’m ringing docs in the morning as I have loads of decent pain relief for the fibro and nothing is touching it. I just feel like howling like a wolf....

Give me childbirth any day.

[highmarkingsnowbile]

I've been bereaved of my young daughter for some years. But gallstones took my mind off that for a while! I honestly thought I'd die and leave my other two children with no mother on top of losing their sister. The pain was indescribable and I had 2 children with no pain relief (G&A makes me vomit).

[Magic2020]

It's painful, but if you prepare and know what's happening then it's completely doable and you just get on with it.

To be honest, by the time you get to labour you're so fed up of not being able to walk, sit or lie down comfortably and having to pee every 5 minutes that the labour is a relief!

For me a bout of diverticulitis was more painful because I didn't know what was happening. I had 2 largeish babies on just gas and air, no complications, but if I hadn't been so lucky it might have been different.

[YerAWizardHarry]

Not for me personally but my labour was 27hrs on the syntocin drip with baby back to back..

Also never had toothache but was a dental nurse previously and would see grown men sobbing in pain so know its no laughing matter

[Carouselfish]

Horrible feeling of being trapped in this body that was hurting and wanting to get out of it (of my own body I mean). Was pressing on my sciatic nerve throughout the last hour or so though so that was awful. I didn't forget it like people seem to. I'm having an elcs this time.

[Vinosaurus]

Post operative knee/leg pain after having an upper tibial osteotomy and bone graft, DH had to make a mercy dash to hospital (had been discharged by the time the nerve block fully wore off) for oramorph and I had to call my mum to talk me out of doing something stupid whilst he was gone.

Back to back labour with a failed epidural (only given when they realised DD was B2B and they'd already pumped me full of syntocinon) was incredibly painful, but there's an end in sight and meaning to the pain, if you see what I mean.

[Iheartbellatrixlastrange]

Would do it again if it meant having my little girl. However, right now one of the reasons I won’t have another child is because the first time around, no medication what so ever (due to me being stubborn), it was hell!

However a year or so later I got the IUD, it was so painful I had to get it taken out. After I left the clinic after nearly fainting and being in so much pain. My partner had to take me to the hospital to have it taken out because I was in so much pain. He even said, He could tell I was in more pain than when I gave birth, which I was.

So no, childbirth was not the most painful thing.

[theBelgranoSisters]

i cant imagine why all these deluded women are on here telling you "yep it'll be the worst pain you can ever imagine, nothing is comparable, and that its all ok cos "you'll be grand" -you're a women and thats what women do -put up wth incredible amounts of pain without relief and deal with it and then keep quiet about often ensuing aftershocks so as not to seem moany,weak, etc..Ummm nope-actually you can have an epidural or c-section and completely avoid the horrific times that gets justified as the Glory of Birth/badge of womanhood..meh I had a lovely en-suite in a beautiful private room and had was up and about with a completely intact vag within the week..My MIL bonkers reaction to the news i wasnt "doing it au natural"still bring a smile to my face!! Its a shame women are still perpetuating this crap.As an aside i worked with far too many women who had no idea what complications intense straining&tearing brings-and how no-one mentions prolapse and incontinence .Good luck with it all though @ChocolateQuiltedShitPig

[ParkheadParadise]

@highmarkingsnowbile

Your right the pain of losing a child is indescribable.

[highmarkingsnowbile]

It's sad so many report post-operative pain because so often, it can be controlled. So much stinginess with pain relief in the UK, tbh.

Oh, I remembered another one that rivalled labour: a scratched cornea. OMG, nothing could take it away until the eyeball was cleaned up and some drops put in. It was awful.

[TehBewilderness]

Tooth pain was worse.

[FairyDogMother11]

I'd been in and out of hospital for various reasons and eventually they induced me by breaking my waters and giving me the pictocin drip. Its worth saying I'd got to 4cm without much in the way of anything other than a few mild cramps and some mild backache, so I think natural labour would have been manageable for me, but have nothing to compare with really. I had the drip for induction and my very experienced midwife warned me that I may like to opt for the epidural at the same time. I didn't, because honestly I have a high pain threshold so thought it would be okay but heeded her warning to take it before it got too intense, I managed with just breathing and gas and air to begin with but it got too much. Just wanted to come and say you don't need to suffer and there's no shame in needing pain relief! My lovely midwife assured me in my throes of pain induced mania (I was sobbing that I must have failed because I couldn't just up breathe like in my hypnobirthing course I did calm down and regain my composure literally minutes after the needle went in, it was apparently quite funny to watch) that a) she had 3 kids and would have had the epidural before the drip and b) you get no medals for not having pain relief. I loved the epidural, I napped, relaxed and my labour was really positive. I had a bad experience after but thanks to the epidural it was a physically painless one and I'd have an epidural again for definite. In fairness, pooing after was probably worse good luck, your baby is worth it, honestly

[MummytoCSJH]

Trigeminal neuralgia (facial and head pain) is absolutely the most horrific thing I've ever experienced, didnt even imagine that amount of pain existed until it happened to me. I genuinely thought I was going to die. Wouldn't wish it on anyone ever. Childbirth was a breeze in comparison and at least you know there's something worthwhile at the end of it! 😁

[LiesHumansTellThemselves]

Childbirth was a piece of piss compared to my migraines. Didn't even rate.

I have also torn the ligaments in my knee. At the time I damaged the nerves so no pain, but once those woke up I knew about it.

Due to the migraines and the need to operate through them I have learned to put pain 'somewhere else'. I just disconnect from it and continue on, otherwise I would lose 6-8 days a month.

[Qgardens]

Definitely gall bladder.

I have lovely memories of my births. The rest of it more than makes up for the pain.

[elliejjtiny]

Post c-section pain

[Snaleandthewhail]

Op, you’ll need to take those big girl nappies off.

Pain is individual. Labour pain comes and goes but has a definitive conclusion. I’ve had three differently pain rated vaginal births bit I would say that I felt better the minute my first, (most traumatic) Labour was over than I had for months in pregnancy.

Good luck.

And yup, whilst I wouldn’t really ant to do it again, for a new baby I absolutely would.

[Bluewarbler27]

For me no. It was more painful than I’d ever imagined. Took me 7 months to bond with my baby and I definitely didn’t look at him and think it was worth it! I was definitely traumatised! I have three but only the first was a vaginal delivery, I had to have a c section for the next two. It was the only reason I had more. However I’ve seen some amazing natural births on Various programs on TV.

It’s so different fo everyone and everyone’s experience is completely different. X