To think there's a balance between strict and completely wet parenting?

[glassmister]

I think some parents are so scared of upsetting their kids

Oh 100 percent there is.

Ok... point?

Does the pope shit in the woods...

What’s your point?

Some parents try and make out it has to be one or the other - usually the very wet ones.

In other news, boiled eggs are runny

Well, yes - and doesn't everyone think they're in that middle bit? I don't know anyone who thinks of themselves as wet or very strict (they might say 'firm'), even if everyone else might consider them to be.

Agreed yes

Don’t get me started on the ‘we don’t want to stifle his creativity’ parents when their kid has scratched your car up with a stick

Taat, by any chance?

some parents

I can’t decide if you are posting this in the classic passive aggressive Facebook post style, where you are pointing your finger at one “bad parent” in particular without naming them. Or you have just read something inflammatory in the Daily Fail/Sun/other crap paper designed to make the masses turn against themselves.

Which one is it? Personal or general?

Did someone say there wasn’t a balance?

Is that about that divisive parenting programme I've seen advertised? If it is, I expect middle of the road, common parenting is spectacularly boring to watch and doesn't generate the kind of dramatic headlines and threads that make for cheap advertisements.

I think everyone thinks this?

Come on op, what's tied your wand in a knot

I’m curious what’s prompted the OP’s statement but I think it’s very nuanced in a lot of cases. People parent with their own compass so sometimes ‘wet’ or too ‘strict’ is misjudged by onlookers purely due to a mismatch of what they deem important.

I’m sure I come across as ‘wet’ at times, dd can’t process things when she feels she’s done something wrong so often (not always) I need to take a softer approach with her if I actually want her to learn something. Resilience is something we’re working on but if it doesn’t come naturally it’s a very hard thing to learn rather than come to a natural conclusion.

Yeah, this has been an argument for at least a hundred years and the given examples are always the extremes.