19 month old won’t sleep all night!!

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Hi I am really struggling with my 19 month old, who has never been the best sleeper and we have always co slept until the last 2 weeks. I am due to have my baby On the 15th June so really needed to get him in his own bed before she arrives. This is proving harder then I thought. I always new it was going to be a challenge but getting up through the night after battling to get him to sleep for an hour is taking its toll. I am exhausted 😩. Has anyone got any tips any advice would be greatly appreciated ☺️.

I have been googling this all morning. Nearly identical situation. 22 month old DS with baby due in basically a month. Going to sleep in his bed fine, waking up at 3am To come into ours, and demanding breastmilk until 5, where he is just up. Can’t go on like this.

Your post has made me hopeful with the similar ages that it’s a phase? Sleep regression? Teeth?

I really sympathise btw I’m sure you are as shattered as I am!!!

I mean the obvious answer is stop breastfeeding at night and keep returning them to their room- maybe ensure they have a nightlight of singing monitor thing to soothe them.
However just guessing this maybe a “how do I make no changes yet have my child change their ways” question

I hope it's a phase DS has been in his own cot/room from about 8 months initially waking and we'd co sleep , we'd gotten to a really good place of him sleeping from about half seven/right until about 7:30, sometimes he'd wake up about half six but come in for cuddles and sleep another hour. He woke at twelve last night but settled quickly, then quarter to six this morning, brought him in with us and he just chatted to me and was singing a lot. He's 18 months and in the last few weeks his language has exploded so I'm hoping it's to do with a developmental leap and he'll go back to sleeping through....

DS has always seen nightlights, mobiles, Ollie the owl etc as opportunity for a baby disco and not in any way soothing....

Buckle up! My kids didn't sleep for seven years, absolute hell. Shortened my life by about 10 years, but hey ho!

DS has always seen nightlights, mobiles, Ollie the owl etc as opportunity for a baby disco and not in any way soothing

This has made me laugh!

I’ve been reading about it aswell and it says it could be sleep regression there little minds are taking in so much it’s hard for them to switch off. He goes down around 7.30 8.00 and wake around 1.30 I’ve done the whole don’t get him out of his bed sooth Him until he falls back to sleep Which is what I think I’m struggling with as it’s taking him over a hour to fall back to sleep so I’m sat on the floor heavily pregs stroking his head for him to then wake as soon as I get back in my bed lol!! So I do it all again 🙄 then he’s up anytime from 6.30. He started off doing amazing going down straight away then falling straight back to sleep I did give in a couple of nights and put him in with me maybe this is were I’ve gone wrong.i am as shattered as you HELP lol!! I really don’t want to do the whole let him cry it out it breaks my heart 😩

My son was a poor sleeper and got up in the night to get in our bed. Then at 3 I had his sister. He took the huff about her waking him up in our bed and decamped back to his bed.

I also read that as they are getting more independent it’s good to give them choices when trying to do the bedtime routine. I let him choice a book and which pjs he wanted to wear. Weather he gets what I’m saying it gave him a little bit of independence. I only started this last night so I’m going to continue and hope this helps 🤞

😂😂😂I was thinking of just doing that let it be and he will soon get fed up. He’s so wriggly tho and I intend to breast feed again and can’t risk him kicking new baby

Maybe it’s too much at once. What are you willing to compromise on? Could you let him cosleep but work on stopping night time bf? This worked with DD at 2yo but it took a lot longer for her to move to her own bed as she was scared.

Routine, pitch black room, white noise (if they aren’t distracted by it). Resettle in own room as much as possible - i know it’s really really tempting to just bring into own room in the short term but in long term you need him to be in own room so if you can, move a chair in there or somewhere you can be comfy and do the resettle
In his bed.

I stopped breastfeeding at 15 months he was no longer interested it organically happened which I was really happy about as I didn't want it to be hard for him. The room is pitch black he's never been a baby that likes lights or white noise in the same tho tbf. I defo need to move a chair in dead bum is not a good feeling lol. I just want him to be happy and not feel scared