To be angry at all the crowds everywhere

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I apologise for the rant. BUT this weekend every park, every park, every public space is rammed full of people. Huge crowds everywhere. The park near me was full of large groups of people drinking and socialising in very close proximity to each other. Even the football pitch is now open and was full of youths playing football.. People having a jolly time, ignoring all the remaining rules, and yet my teen dd is having a miserable time - missing out on a huge chunk of her education, unable to do a sport that she loves and is a huge part of her life. It feels so unfair.

So start going out.

Aww your poor dd. My kids are really missing their sports too. You are allowed to meet up now, so get her together with some friends. It will put a smile on her face for a while xxx

People have had enough (rightly or wrongly)

Is your DD not home schooling? How old is she?

But all the people in the park will die of the plague. So you'll be better off in the end xx

Yes, we do go for walks, and my dd (14) does do some remote learning but it’s all far from normal and is having some grave consequences for us. The reason why I am angry is that it feels like the government has given up on imposing any restrictions in the private realm, but schools, organised activities, etc cannot resume.

So it’s ok for a group of 30 teens to hang out in the park, sitting closely together, smoking weed, etc but not ok for them to be in school. Crazy.

We are all furious at the government. Both the pro and anti lockdown sides! Children need other children. Teenagers need other teenagers. Is there no way she can meet up with a few friends (not the weed smoking group!) Xx

It isn't ok for 30 teens to hang out in the park sitting closely together. Dh and I have been taking walks in a range of places both within walking distance and also within 10 miles drive since this was allowed. We have see plenty people enjoying being out and about but have found people maintaining a proper social distance and until the rules changed recently we never saw anyone even sitting down on a park bench. In general people have taken the rules very seriously because most people do fear getting this horrible disease. Of course there are more people about now the rules are relaxed, personally I think a bit too early, but it hasn't been a problem to keep a social distance. It is safer outside, people are not allowed to meet inside. The rise in people outside seems to suggest that most people are sticking to the rules and not socializing at home. Keep well away from the rare mad people out in big groups, personally no-one I know has actually come across one yet. Hopefully the police will disperse any groups going against the new rules.

The government - neither mine (US) nor yours - cannot afford to police the private realm.

The public realm - specifically schools and school sports - no idea what's going to happen, particularly with contact sports(!).

I know many families who embraced youth sports as their lifestyle. Their kids loved them, they loved them. So tough!

I am so sorry. Is there any way she can run with a friend? Do light weights together in the yard, etc., to stay in condition?

Not much you can do about others, sadly.

My child is also having a miserable time, not seen any other kids for over 12 weeks now and also misses their sports clubs...but as for every park is full I’m sorry that’s not true. I have gone out today and drove by several park and forests, car parks were not even half fall any people that were there were in small groups and sitting a distance from each other. It’s not everybody not keeping to the rules it’s a very small number. NewsPapers only show pictures to annoy people who are sticking to the guidelines.

we had to use the underground recently, it was filthy. the seats looked like they were not cleaned for 10 years. i think what only they do is spray them with antivirutics and antibacterials

OP - why don't you try and alleviate your DD's misery by encouraging her to meet up with a friend or two?

You dd is perfectly allowed to meet up with a friend. From Monday she can meet with 5

I cannot take DS out as he doesn’t understand social distancing, his school informed us he is not allowed back to September, neighbour has complained he is to noisy. Yes I am angry there are crowds everywhere, I understand why but it doesn’t stop the anger. We seem to be in this together whilst it’s suits only certain people.

@Boulshired does your ds have additional needs that mean he does not understand social distancing? If he does, but those needs dont make him more vulnerable to coronavirus then take him out and it's up to people to stay 2m away from him. We are not all in this together don't believe the liars who try and make you think that. Do you drive? Can you drive somewhere quieter? Does he have a strict routine or could you take him out early in the morning? The crowds all hate mornings round here. I'm sure you have already thought of all of these things but your post was so heart wrenching I just had to reply xxx

The difficulty is that it's stressful going to the beach or the park when it is busy. People aren't social distancing, so you have to try to weave around them. Plus lots of them are out all day so it's hard to find a time when it is quieter.

I agree OP that there are a lot of people who have completely stopped following any sort of rules. Parks near us are overrun. Including with huge groups that cannot possibly be in accordance with the rules.

Thanks playdonut , I drive but he does not understand he can not go to his favourite places so it is to dangerous to go in the car and I live in a place that is normally quiet but is now swarmed with people because it has walks. There is a constant flow of people and cars parked everywhere. It is just to dangerous because of his size and behaviour. Original lock down was fine now there are people everywhere.

I understand what you are saying OP.

If this release from lockdown was a bit more controlled/organised with track and trace properly in place etc we'd have some hope that we could hold onto our freedom for longer and maybe start to get a bit more of our life back too.

But the way that it's become a free for all (round here it has, maybe not everywhere) we are going to end up in a much worse place than when we started.

I can't see that the government will be able to pay furlough again. So what will they do? They've used every tool they've got. We'll just have to live with it. But at this rate I can't see life getting back to normal for a long long while.

I'm sorry @Boulshired I knew my suggestions were a bit shit. All I can really say is we are not all in this together and you sound like an amazing mum who is really putting your son first. I'm sorry it's all so hard for you, I really am xxx

We have a lovely country park on our doorstep. I know we are lucky to have that but during lockdown we simply used it to enjoy our once daily exercise. We've seen a lot of people obviously breaking lockdown rules ie two people not from the same household but ignored it. Today was the real piss taker. There were many large groups of all ages: teenagers, 20somethings, and families meeting up. We're not officially supposed to meet in groups of 6 but I've seen bigger groups already not observing the 2m rule.